Hi first time post but long time reader..I will detail a brief history of myself and my ex girlfriend but focus more on recent events in more detail
-Seeing each other off/on for over 5 years now
-I was reluctant to commit at start of relationship as i was enjoying being single after previous relationship
-When i did finally realize what I wanted about two years ago my ex kind of used it as excuse to punish me for my past mistakes, ending up becoming AFC over course of few months
-She began to treat me pretty shitty knowing she could get away with it, I passed it off yeah well maybe I do have to do the running here because of past etc...
-she moved to away for a few month, during this time i got confidence back met someone else finished with ex etc
-when my ex returned she came running back saying sorry etc Things will change, I love you, give me another chance
-Against my better judgement and after month of half of this I met her and agreed to give it another go..
-After this she began a new job met new people basically went back to how it was as if i was one chasing after this, said she couldn't commit to an exclusive relationship as she felt hurt id been with someone else
-After another few months of taking me for granted and messing me around i cut myself off from it again and same thing happened..she said she wanted exclusive relationship etc
-I was angry and told her i was moving on etc, cut contact, told her to move on, i wanted to see if she was serious this time
- then suddenly she came and said she moving on, coincided with her meeting some other guy,they just were flirting etc nothing to serious yet but i made mistake of going AFC and gushing about this and that, the usual mistakes..
-she met me a few times, said she just didn't know now about us because of what had happened in past,etc all this shit
-I did the opposite of all advice on this forum lol in the following period however i did finally wise up and come to my senses..
so i remembered the forums...I read other posts..I went nc...I joined gym etc probably in best shape my life..invested myself in other interests..
so after about two weeks or so of nc she txt me...i didnt reply straight away and got a msg saying are you not speaking to me..I replied, kept it short, implied i was busy and wished her well..few days later of nc again she called me, i answered and didnt mention anything about past relationship, just kept it positive on my end etc as id read and signed off in a nice but abrupt kind of way..i've went no contact again now..she now knows i've seen other people for dates..the last time she msged me i started to neg her again and when she mentioned relationship and how was awkard when we spoke etc i just passed off that i never noticed, she began to rant about how id quickly changed how i felt about things after id accused her of the same etc..I relied with a question totally unrelated about a friend of hers..she replied about why i was asking about some other girl etc and i just didnt reply back went back to nc..that was about a week ago... any thoughts on how i should proceed
Also as far as i know this other guy is still chasing after her
Any advice would be greatly appreciated guys