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Thread: Need some advice here, im losing it..

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    Default Need some advice here, im losing it..

    This little situation is about my gf and I, and I need some straight black and white who's right who's wrong and what to do's. In the beginning of our relationship (1 and a half years together) i was extremely insecure, and would secretly go through her things -- read her journal, went through her phone ect. When I told her about this, naturally she was upset and since then I've really had to find it in me to accept and trust her. Fast-forward to yesterday, Im sitting in her car waiting for her as she goes into a gas station. I grabbed her phone to put on a song from youtube, when all of the sudden she appears out of nowhere like a fucking genie and catches me with her phone. She snatches it and assumes that i was going through her stuff, mind you 'youtube' is still open. She comes back in and i tell her what was actually going on. She doesnt believe me, all hell breaks loose, and the downward spiral keeps spiraling downward. Eventually it gets to the point where she wants me to apologize and 'understand why she would think i was going through her things', but in anger i refused to acknowledge i did anything wrong. Why would I? I was wrongly accused and was now being reprimanded for doing nothing wrong. By the end of it all, she dropped me off at a bus stop and Im bussing home fuming at what just happened. A day later and we havent talked, so I need some advice here, on who's right, and what I should do? Maintain radio silence? Call her? This throws me off and I dont want my ego dictating my judgement.

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    Default Re: Need some advice here, im losing it..

    Text her. Keep it simple and apologize. You need to do some serious inner game work here and dont just see this as a small thing about privacy but also your sense of entitlement in the relationship. Just because its within reach does it mean its yours to play around with. Its much like her--what you did is creepy because she cant trust you. Redevelop your sense of trust with her again and let her establish her comfort zone around you. Let her lead in that area.

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    Default Re: Need some advice here, im losing it..

    Yeah that's pretty solid advice. Just a simple sorry should suffice. If your ever gonna touch her things in the future don't get caught bro. Also Try not to let things spiral out of control next time. You had to take the bus and she left you in the street because u couldn'tsay sorry. A simple "I understand" goes a long way trust me. U can handle this bro grad it by the horns and ride that bull.
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    Default Re: Need some advice here, im losing it..

    Thanks for the advice, yeah I realize i was wrong in doing it... the frustration of being accused got me worked up something awful


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