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Thread: Girlfriend got wasted slapped me across the face.. advice needed pronto!

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    Default Girlfriend got wasted slapped me across the face.. advice needed pronto!

    I'll try to keep this post short. My Gf of a year and a half have been rocky for the past few months. We both love each other, and I want to make it work with this girl again, but we just keep missing each other for some reason. What happened last night was preceded by a fight we had had the night before, so from the get-go was hypersensitive to everything. My gf was at a dinner/house party with her friends, and afterwards they decided to go to a strip club where I met them. I get there and my girlfriend is already plastered and in a bad mood. She keeps egging me on for a fight, so i decide to go outside for some air. When I come back i see her and all her friends are in the washroom of the club, so i decide to go back outside again. Now THIS is where all hell breaks loose. When I came back in she's livid confronts me saying i walked into the washroom with a girl and then when i saw her ran out, supposedly the stripper said ''oh is that your boyfriend?'' Later on she said I was holding her hand and just kept adding lies. As we're arguing she slaps me across the face a few times, says she hates me, at which point I leave. Stupidly because im weak i come back and we're at it again. Next she's all lovey again, and I decide we're going home. At this point shes so drunk she can barely walk. As we're making our way to the car, shes telling me how much she hates me, telling me how low i am, how poor i am, how i bring my family down (?), on top of all this shes hitting me, spitting, running away, even threw a cone at me (shes 28 btw). Finally we get to the car and she starts fucking with me while driving, changing the gears pulling the e-break. After all this we get home, i put her in bed and call it a night. Next morning she wakes up apologizing saying she loves me, i tell her i'd never disrespect anyone like that and that i need a break and time to re-evaluate everything. That Im on the brink of breaking up. I know this is going to sound dumb to alot of people but i do still care about this girl and would want to work it out, but only in a way where I'll be happy. So now that its come to this point, wtf do i do? Shes never done anything even remotely close to this, and for me its the final straw. What do I do now? I NEED my manhood and respect from her. I will only stay in this relationship if i can get what i want, ive been a doormat for too long. What do I do?

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    Default Re: Girlfriend got wasted slapped me across the face.. advice needed pronto

    Walk......
    Red flags everywhere. Don't turn a blind eye to that.

    Yeah it always sucks when you go through a breakup, but you always survive & everything is better.

    Emotionally unstable people aren't good to be around.


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    Default Re: Girlfriend got wasted slapped me across the face.. advice needed pronto

    To many red flags to ignore as T-mal was saying. You deserve better. She's never done anything like that, and you were ready close to the edge. Her behavior on that night pushed you over. Let it go my friend, and don't look back.

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    Default Re: Girlfriend got wasted slapped me across the face.. advice needed pronto

    That behavior isn't good, and you deserve better...

    Assuming that your past behavior is normal. Which is not, according to the last thread you started.

    Your attitude when you two started dating was bad, so your beginning as a couple was already kind of traumatic for her.

    Your recent behavior wasn't all great too, considering your last thread, but her attitude isn't good either.

    You two need to have a conversation about all the shit you two have done since the beginning, because neither one of you guys is free of guilt.

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    Default Re: Girlfriend got wasted slapped me across the face.. advice needed pronto

    My advice to anyone if a partner in their relationship turns out to be abusive is end that relationship ASAP. She says she is sorry, but if it happened once already, it can happen again.

    She is from what you gave us: verbally, physically and emotionally abusive. She clearly needs anger management or therapy.

    You don't need to get your manhood from her. No woman can give you that, only you can. As for respect, in this situation your self-respect is what is needed, and don't do anything to compromise that.

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    Default Re: Girlfriend got wasted slapped me across the face.. advice needed pronto

    One thing i will say after rethinking things a bit is that the only serious apology i think is acceptable is if she on her own terms doesnt drink a drop anymore. Again this would be of her own accord. If she's making strides to serious change herself knowing she did wrong i believe that could work to your benefit into a relationship but the chances of someone doing so is very, very slim
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.


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