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    Default Fucked up situation

    Hey guys,

    I really need some insight on a weird situation I'm currently in. Let me start:

    Chapter 1

    I met a chick at uni and at first I did the overplaying my value thing, making everyone believe I'm a player. I received a lot of attraction from the particular girl I had set my eyes on and after 2 outtings with our classmates I told her directly I like her via messaging. She responded that she likes me very much too but she had a boyfriend and that she wanted a few weeks to get to know me and decide if we are compatible. For some effing reason, I accepted. Because other people had noticed of the attraction between us they started making some comments to me like "When are you farking her?" and stuff. So I told her to keep it low at uni and hangout afterwards.

    Chapter 2

    The next week she didn't come to uni cause of an illness and when she came back things were a little bit awkward between us in person (especially from her part). She came to sit next to me on the lab for a while and I created a note on my pc asking if she wanted to go out with me later, she just giggled and went away. Two days later I asked her if she wanted to come out with me for lunch and she said she'd love too but she had plans and that I should ask earlier next time.
    I was really pissed of at the last comment and said to her that there won't be a next time.

    The next day she started messaging me but I didn't respond, she sent a lot of texts and when I continued not replying she sent

    Girl: "Now you are not talking to me?"
    Me: "I just stopped wasting my time on you, I noticed you are flaking and I'm going after something else"

    She then asked why I told her that stuff and I replied that for starters when I asked her out the first time she didn't even answer, her excuse was that this was her way of saying 'yes' and I should have figured out. Then I said that the second time she acted arrogantly and that if she really wanted to go out with me she should propose a reschedule. Then she told me that she would eventually propose a date for the next day but I stopped talking to her. (can't ever win with them can you).

    She said she would like to go out with me and when I would be free. I told her that for the next week I wouldn't be able to because I had an ex-girlfriend visiting over which we had planned way earlier than met her and we couldn't cancel because she would be coming from another country and the tickets were expensive (which was true).

    Chapter 3

    For the whole week my ex was here she kept messaging me all day long, even though she had herself proposed not to talk to each other while she was here, and I had agreed to that. When my ex left I asked her if she would go out with me after uni and we finally went on a date. I tried kissing her but she told me she didn't want to cheat on her boyfriend and we should wait until she makes the decision to be with me. During the date I teased her hard, like saying that she dresses like a slob but it was really obvious I was joking. In general I teased her from Chapter 1 and she seemed to really enjoy it. That time she got mad though. She messaged me about random stuff and when I asked her if we would do that again she replied that she was undecided and we should go out with classmates so that I can't be mean to her. I said I have no interest in going out with others and that I take her answer as a no. Then she proceeded inviting me out for Bonfire Night with her friends and I said no. From then on she has ceased any contact. When she went to a concert and tried to initiate contact by messaging "Have fun at the concert!" she replied with a plain "Thanks.".


    Chapter 4

    Here comes the really messy part. There was another girl in the lab who is (or pretends to be) into me and who is friends with the girl I'm interested in. She constantly messages me and asks about private stuff, she also said to me she thinks I'm hot. For a whole week she was trying to convince me to change desk in the lab and go sit at hers. When I gave in and did, she was pretending she didn't know nothing about it to others.
    Then this dialogue happened:

    Girl: "I want my desk back"

    Me: "Yeah you essentially brought me over here and now you re sending me back"

    Girl: "No I didn't!"

    Me: "Yes you did and I have proof for it too, so stop denying it"

    Girl: "Ok, I did"

    Girl I'm interested in: "I'll pretend I didn't hear that conversation" (wtf?)

    The next day she and that girl went and told another girl (which is a friend of mine but they don't know that) that "What's the deal with him moving desks" etc. Of course my friend told me all about it.

    The girl that pretends to be / is interested in me still keeps messaging me. She also told me that she broke up with her bf(yeah she has one too)
    but I shouldn't tell nobody else, I'm 99% percent sure its bullshit. (wtf^2)

    So, I think they've started driving me insane and I have absolutely no clue what's happening. Every girl I've met was pretty much straightforward, either she liked me or not liked me and we could move on with our lives. I start feeling that I'm in high school all over again.

    Some questions:
    -Is it possible that either of them is into me?
    -Was the first one really attracted to me and attraction faded out or she was playing me all way long?
    -What the fark they're both up to?

    I'm truly SORRY for the long post. I really need some help

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    Default Re: Fucked up situation

    I met a chick at uni and at first I did the overplaying my value thing, making everyone believe I'm a player.
    first off, pretending to be a player is rarely a good move. women can always sniff out a fake, its just a matter of time. (sure they'll think you're a player at first, but as time progresses it gets a lot harder to keep the image up unless you genuinely are one)

    I received a lot of attraction from the particular girl I had set my eyes on and after 2 outtings with our classmates
    as a rule of thumb, the more times you hang out with a girl without sleeping with her, the less likely it will happen.

    I told her directly I like her via messaging.
    I could tell you a thousand reasons why that was a bad move...

    of course the biggest one being that you did it over text??? that's like calling a girl up while you're drunk and professing your love to her. of course its beta, low value, and incongruent with what a player would do.

    do yourself a favor, and save direct game for in person!

    that she wanted a few weeks to get to know me and decide if we are compatible.
    what she told you was a load of sh!t. what she really meant is "stick around and validate me until something better comes along"

    your chance to be direct and fark her was probably the first or second time you met her. not after texting her for weeks.

    if you were being congruent with your "player image" you would have at least tried to seduce her the day you told her you were a player.

    your problem here is that you hung around after failing to seduce her within 3 meet-ups. this is a sure recipe to get friend zoned.

    The next day she and that girl went and told another girl (which is a friend of mine but they don't know that) that "What's the deal with him moving desks" etc. Of course my friend told me all about it.
    this is just girl drama. ignore it if you know what's best for you. lol

    Is it possible that either of them is into me?
    possible? yes. guaranteed? no.

    if you like one of them, go for it, holding back will only cause her attraction to fade.

    Was the first one really attracted to me and attraction faded out or she was playing me all way long?
    she was attracted, now she's playing you to make you one of her "orbiters" don't make the mistake of chasing after her in any way shape or form. let her come to you if she wants to, and don't invest any more energy in her. let her do the chasing if she wants you.


    What the fark they're both up to?
    I assume you're talking about the girls in the lab?

    they're testing you. the whole "desk" thing was a test to see if you would give up your new desk to her. you did the right thing by not budging.

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    Default Re: farked up situation

    First of all thanks for taking the time to read the post and answering.

    Just to clarify, I didn't say at any time myself that I'm a player. Other people noticed that some girls gave me their numbers and they start making a fuss about it. She herself told me she thought I'm a player and I just didn't deny it (nor confirm it). She actually asked me about the girls and I replied "Why do you ask" and when she gave me her random response I said to her "Well ok, cause I thought you wanted an application form too". That was the turning point where I felt that she started getting attracted to me.

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    Default Re: Fucked up situation

    Embrace the hate and so called sh1t tests from everyone else. Dont lie about why youre awesome but also dont get carried away in bragging about it all. Be humble. Let everyone say what they want to say while you keep gaming... Because at the end ofthe day you will have gamed while all they have done is talked.
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.


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