Greetings gents, been a while but glad to see the community alive and well here at my favorite forum.
I've recently found myself in what is by far the most peculiar situation I've seen during my time.
Just over two months ago I met a girl through mutual friends and we hit it off fierce. Tons of flirting and sex talk through text, making time for one another regularly, and she pulled out all the stops for my birthday after only a couple of weeks of dating. We just had tons of fun together.
During the first month I was regularly seeing another girl as well, but let things fizzle out with her as I was so into this one.
Once the other one was out of the picture we were pretty much inseperable. She told her family and friends all about me on a regular basis and we even spoke briefly about the future. Things were going so well that we even booked a vacation together. (More on that in a moment)
The sex has been frequent and great, very violent and ending up in a lot of nice clothing being rendered unusable. When we are both drinking there is nothing that stops us.
And then all of a sudden it stopped.
We went out for a night with friends, had a great time and I know I made a great impression on them all. The next day she was near death with a hangover and I was very accommodating. Just wanted to help her while sick. The next day she was still sick and didn't want to talk or be touched, and the third day was the same. I will formally admit that I was a little overbearing the last two days but sincerely just wanted to help.
The last day once she was feeling a little better she decided to leave to be in her own space, which I was fine with. That was about a week and a half ago. Since then everything has been different. She has been increasingly distant and cold and in response I've been fairly similar but at the same time still putting in some effort. I just can't for the life of me figure out what changed. I don't think a couple of days of being overly sensitive/borderline needy would have done it given all the preceeding.
I have two scenarios that I think it might have been.
One, she called me out once for talking about my ex when with mutual friends. Nothing over the top but she found it odd. She also sees me disappear for nights at a time with no responses. Twice at the last big dinner her close friends called her my girlfriend and I corrected them. Which I suspect got back to her.
The other is that maybe those two days really did push her away. I've given her space but she starts conversation nearly every day although all her responses are nothing near where they used to be. I've been careful to not be needy or bring anything up about the situation nonetheless. Her coldness and distance is driving me insane however. I will also mention that she has lots going on at work and home right now.
I will include two conversations of note.
The first was almost a week after she left when I noticed things weren't nearly the same
Me: Anyways I don't know what caused you to pull away, but I'm not the type of guy who's gonna chase. That being said I'm a guy who knows what he wants. I can imagine that I was more than a bit annoying while you were sick, and reacted terrrrribly and that's on me. I just was trying to help and was frustrated that I couldn't. But I thought we've had a good thing going the last couple months, don't want a couple bad days to ruin that. That's all I got
Her:Oh I Would never intend to be chased. Honestly, just wanted/needed some me time. Haven't been well, so just did my own thing work & gym. We've been spending a lot of time together. Don't get me wrong, it's been fun but also means I've been completely flaking on my friends - it's been mentioned a few times and I don't like being that person.
The second was a little briefer, we were chatting a bit and she was being annoying so I called her a nickname that she had previously told me she doesn't like guys she's seeing calling her. She replied with that's it we are just friends. I said haha that's cute. And she said not cute, for reals. It's never been mentioned again after.
The last two days have been the worst. Two word texts maximum and much longer than average response times. Absolutely no interest in anything I've got going on and zero enthusiasm.
Here's the kicker. Tomorrow we are going on a four day vacation tomorrow. She's coming over tonight to spend the night and then we leave tomorrow. I don't want to have the trip be awkward because we have a lot of fun stuff planned and we have traditionally had a blast together. Part of me wants to get things out in the open tonight but I'm also worried about pushing her further away if it's been a loss of attraction.
As I can't figure out which one of the two its been or maybe even both, any suggestions on how to proceed with this? Ideally I'd want things to work out but I'm more than happy back in the game if it doesn't. I guess my biggest sticking point is that things moved so far so fast and then seemingly hit a brick wall. I just don't understand how someone can change so much seemingly overnight.
Cheers in advance