I am after some advice here to do with a girl I have been seeing.
Firstly, I am in an LTR with another girl (lets call her girl A), and the other girl (girl B) is aware of my LTR. I have been seeing girl B for about 4 months now, and whilst I can tell that she is into me, shes trying to distance herself, partly to protect herself from getting hurt, and partly because she doesnt want to come between me and girl A.
Girl B and I live in different cities, so I am pretty limited in the times I can see her. This poses a bit of a problem, and I try to keep up with her over text and phone calls whilst we are apart, with some success.
I have just spent 3 days with Girl B and we had a little chat about the future and where we are both at. I said that I wanted to keep things casual and my partner needs me right now, but I also said that I had feelings for her and that its pretty heart-wrenching each time I have to go back to my home town.
She didnt like this, and hinted that she thinks I am getting too involved. This is a bummer because I am not too involved, but I messed up and conveyed that I was.
She says that she wants to keep seeing me, but that she doesnt want to break up a family, or be the catalyst for that kind of thing, and she only wants it to continue if i can keep it casual. She says that if I were free and single, then she would like to try a relationship with me, but she also says that she doesnt want to force me to make a choice.
I want to keep seeing this girl and I want to keep my LTR in tact. Now that I have revealed my cards, so to speak, how do i convince her that I actually can see her casually on the side like she wants, and that I am not too involved?