Hey everyone. Long time lurker, but finally joined. Sorry if this is a newbie question, but it seems complicated to me...
I moved to NY a few months ago and there's this girl I've been working with. Been talking to her whenever she's there about random stuff. Texted here and there. I've built a little rapport over shared interests, but most likely no comfort. I'm pretty sure my game was terrible as well.
Now for the mistakes I gave my info first and got the number from her later (after a little bit). Asked to hang out once almost every weekend since the beginning of October (Not being pushy but still asking) and worst of all, before building that comfort. Didn't mean to do that, but the flakes kind of led one into the other (always busy with work and home life, but there's always next week). She'll go to lunch when she's free, but never more than that. Usually I would take that as a hint, but since she does actually work very hard and should have little free time, I took it at face value. Now, I'm not so sure. I feel like I had a slight chance in the beginning, but I don't know about now.
A few days ago, she blew me off about something that I feel was pretty telling and I've stopped engaging as much as I used to. The obligatory hello, if that, but no more and no more texts. This might not work out because there are times I might have to hang with her and a new male friend who happens to know her.
No one-itis going on here. I'm interested but not full-blown hooked, just curious and open minded. I'm approaching it as more of a game and a learning experience. And I just hate to lose I'm free atm with nothing to really lose, so I'd be willing to try any approach.
So there it is. Any tips?