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Thread: First Post - Rusty Game after 4+ Year LTR

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    Default First Post - Rusty Game after 4+ Year LTR

    Hi guys,

    So this is my first post. Quick background, I got into the whole pickup scene probably about 7 years ago, and I definitely found a lot of success with it. It led to me finding my ex-girlfriend that I dated for over 4 years from 09' until this year. We broke up back in May, and after months of basically just spending time doing things for myself, I'm ready to get back out there.

    However my game is rusty. I'm just now starting to push myself into it. Luckily, I had a situation fall into my lap that jump-started it for me.

    Long story short, two weeks ago I was out with 3 buddies, and we were leaving from one bar to go to another and these girls actually followed us and said "we want to go where you're going" (very rare, I know). So we go to another bar and I don't really talk to them much as I'm still out of sync with my game, but then I end up sitting next to one of them at a pizza place, and I proceed to sit and talk with her for about 30 mins, and get the number.

    Now admittedly, not only was I rusty, but with everyone else huddled around at the table in earshot, I had a difficult time being as flirty as I want to be. But we had a decent conversation, I played it cool and laid-back and we talked about some things like our Italian background, college, work, etc, but I probably didn't come off as as interesting as I would've liked.

    Regardless, I text her the next day. We go back and forth for about a week, but she is spotty with her responses and response times. I play it light, don't acknowledge the down-time. But twice I threw in "we should go for that drink soon".....and she ignores it each time.

    Anyway, last Friday I posted something to her about how I assume she'll be out causing trouble in Shadyside (where we met) again, but we should get that drink the following week.

    Here's the rest of the exchange:

    Her: Hello AJ. Happy Friday to you. No we aren't causing any trouble tonight. I'm at my parents for the weekend. So shadyside is safe tonight lol

    Me: Ohh ok. Well that's cool. Let your parents know they are doing a public service then, helping keep Shadyside quiet tonight.... I'll let the locals around there know its ok for them to walk the streets again...haha

    (No response....so I ignore and text the following Monday, 3 days later)...

    Me: Hi Katie, hope you had a fun weekend at home. I was in your hood the other night at the movies, too bad you weren't around. How's your schedule look this week?

    (No response from Monday through today (Friday). So I threw out a hail mary)...

    Me: Hi Katie, happy Friday. Haven't heard from you in a while, so I'm hoping you weren't abducted by aliens. It's either that, or you must have a thing against Italian guys

    Her: (5 hours later) Hello. No aliens have not abducted me. I have just been crazy busy since I've been back. Might not mind it if aliens abducted me though I need vacation!

    Me: (1+ hour later) Hey I hear you, I'm about to just pack my bags and head to the nearest island myself. One-time offer....I'll drive us to the airport if you want to tag along. Just tell me when to pick you up.

    Nothing since then. She responds to 3/4 of my texts, but ignores all of my attempts at setting up the Day 2. Should I just continue to tease and slowly break her down to where she might finally answer a Day 2 request, push harder for the date, or give up?

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    Default Re: First Post - Rusty Game after 4+ Year LTR

    The game will come back to you pretty quickly if you start making the approaches.

    Just review the basics here and then approach girls as often as you can. Learn to add 1 new thing to your game each week.

    I had awesome night game in my teens and into my early 20's. Then I got married. I was married for 10 years and now I am divorced.

    The game started to come back to me within 30 days after I started approaching every HB I saw and within 2 to 3 months I was back to where I left off in my 20's.

    My point to you is that you have to start approaching without worrying about what the outcome will be. It won't be long before you find your game again.

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    Default Re: First Post - Rusty Game after 4+ Year LTR

    Dave is right man, get out there. And I wish I had a perfect answer for this girl, but I've got a whole bag of numbers like this anyway.

    Your texts really aren't bad. I mean there's always room for improvement, but you should focus on getting more approaches and numbers first, you'll see better ROI (return on investment) there

    Basically, take her as practice, and get more numbers. When you're good at game maybe 25% of the numbers you get actually materialize into a date. Just a fact of life man.

    Anyway, I broke up with my girl back in July, was pretty messy too, but I'm lovin game and abundance again. Just get out there and keep at it, all of it will come back.
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    Default Re: First Post - Rusty Game after 4+ Year LTR

    Thanks guys. I know you're absolutely right. The good thing is, getting into this community back years ago totally changed my mindset. I definitely approach things like this without much of a care in the world if it fails, and have that abundance mentality where I know everything is just a percentage game.

    So much question was more just of the tactical kind and not out of desperation. Losing this one won't bother me one bit...I was just trying to see if there's some strategy I could use for practice's sake. The fact that she is so flakey is a turn-off to ME anyway.

    Glad to be back on these boards with like-minded dudes though. It's been years. I'm excited to get back out there and just go for it. Thanks for the help!


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