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    Default need help with conversation

    My major sticking point is holding conversation in person. Story telling abilities in person are non existent. I'm not a shy person, but I become stuck like a deer in headlights when I'm put on the spot, not knowing where to go next.

    I went on a date with this beautiful girl to grab coffee and walk around downtown by the river. It became a 10 hour date lasting long into the night. She is super into me. The attraction is there, kino was on fire and we were having the night of our lives. But the date was not with out awkward silences,choppy conversation and yes/no interrogation questioning. Also my add kicks in and I tend to drift off into my head and become quiet/sleepy looking. In fact she was saying your so quiet, am I boring you yet. I just kept saying I was sleepy.

    Guys... I wanna take this to the next level and make it more fun for my date. Please help me iron out my conversation skills. I'm a solid texter, have modest wit and a humorous side. However, The pressure gets to me being put on the spot thinking... "Ohhh shit she's looking in my eyes and I have nothing to say but a sarcastic, smart ass or cheesy comment."
    Which btw i have to watch my sarcasm in person, cause literally everything I say is sarcastic or teasing on a date. This isn't always bad, but it needs to be balanced with comfort and casual conversation.

    Like we sat cuddling in my truck for hours, and shes being a bubbly chatterbox about purely random things. I sit there not saying hardly anything but uh huh or mhmm when she kept asking if I'm sleepy or bored. Lol I mean there were great moments, but I wanna learn how to make the pillow talk or walking arm in arm talk flow.

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    Default Re: need help with conversation

    First rule of conversation I always use: LISTEN. A conversatio will not go no where and have no other topics if you do not listen to what the girl is saying. Second rule is to LET HER TALK. People love talking so let them talk. Most of the time the girl'll open up if you only ask probably one or two questions to get the wheels turning. After that all you need to do is sit back and let her, but remember to REALLY LISTEN because there are always ways to keep the conversation going in what the girl is saying.
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    Default Re: need help with conversation

    acepace,

    I wouldn't worry so much. The fact that she is a little worried about coming across as boring to you says some good things about this woman. For instance she might also be the type to admit to mistakes if you get what I mean???? She isn't just trying to take from you like always expecting you to be all the entertainment. She may be a little insecure herself. It's better than a woman that is so into herself and right away says boring guy yet she never provides any fun herself.


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