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Thread: Is glancing at my lips an IOI?

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    Default Is glancing at my lips an IOI?

    Hey guys,

    I met this girl at a meetup last week and we sorta hit it off well. The one thing I noticed was that she was constantly quickly glancing at my lips/mouth while I was talking.

    At first, I thought I had something on them, but they were clean. Then, I started wondering if she was interested (I have met 2-3 girls like that who were persistently glancing at some random part of my face for no reason at all). Anyway, I took her number and arranged a date.

    She was doing the same thing during the whole duration of the date and I feel a bit puzzled. Some people will say that she wanted me to kiss her. Well, I usually have this rule of getting to know the girl first and kissing her after (usually by the 2nd date). I have already been burned for not respecting this rule, so I am sticking to it.

    The thing is that I am not sure about her yet. She is nice and all, but we seem to have pretty incompatible personalities. I will give it a thought until I meet her next week.

    In the case, I decide to make a move, what is the best way to approach this?

    A) If she starts glancing again, I can say with a grin "you must really like my lips, because your eyes are glued on them" and then lean in for the kiss.

    B) If she starts glancing again, I call her out on it with a similar remark but wait later to kiss her. This will serve as both a neg and a DHV, and I give it a bit of time to sink in her head.

    C) If she starts glancing again, I can say with a grin "I know you like those lips of mine, but I am not giving them easily"


    Any suggestions? Please bear in mind that she is a mid-30s manager in a big company, so it's not like I am flirting with some immature college chick.

    Thanks in advance!

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    Default Re: Is glancing at my lips an IOI?

    None of those... But you're kinda on the right track.

    Joshua Pellicer has a great technique that fits this same situation for when you're maybe a little unsure.

    When you see her triangulating on your lips.. to eyes.. Back to lips, tell her "it's OK..."

    When she says "what's OK?"

    You say "you can kiss me... I wanna kiss you too."

    There's no need for negs at all... or cheesy lines.
    Just confidently let her know you're ready to kiss her.


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    Default Re: Is glancing at my lips an IOI?

    Quote Originally Posted by T-Mal View Post
    None of those... But you're kinda on the right track.

    Joshua Pellicer has a great technique that fits this same situation for when you're maybe a little unsure.

    When you see her triangulating on your lips.. to eyes.. Back to lips, tell her "it's OK..."

    When she says "what's OK?"

    You say "you can kiss me... I wanna kiss you too."

    There's no need for negs at all... or cheesy lines.
    Just confidently let her know you're ready to kiss her.
    This would work just fine but you could...go in for the kiss. How about you stop wondering "if" she wants to kiss you and you just go for it instead. You will NEVER lose points with a girl for trying to kiss her. You will only gain points (even if she denies you).

    I go by this motto "If I think she wants to kiss me she wants to kiss me" and it almost never fails. If she turns her head don't worry! Just laugh it off and act like nothing happened! I can't tell you how many times I've been denied a kiss the first time but kept persisting and ended up making out with the girl.

    You lose WAY more opportunities by being too timid then being too bold!

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    Default Re: Is glancing at my lips an IOI?

    Thanks! That's really good advice

    I am still in the learning process, so I am still trying to understand how to use negs, push/pull and cocky/funny. I thought it would be appropriate in this situation but apparently it is better being direct here.

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    Default Re: Is glancing at my lips an IOI?

    5 years ago I was improving myself in this art. I met loads of girls, but one of them made me think "man, I really want this one" (from then on, when I have a girlfriend we don't talk. But when she knows I'm single, she always always comes back to talk to me, I wonder why...). She felt attracted to me, she even made herself invited to be with me. One day, I asked her "what would you do if I'd kiss you?". She answered "I don't know...". You think that I went straight for the kiss, eh?
    Wrong. I was a fucking pussy and said: "ok" and walked away.

    Asking this while you're learning is a mistake, because it will make you chicken out. Go straight for the kiss, just like Direct said.

    Whenever you're more advanced, just for the sake of screwing around, you can say something like T-Mal said, because of being self-amused, but initially be Direct.

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    Default Re: Is glancing at my lips an IOI?

    I'm the guy that goes in for the kiss no questions asked... Always felt that asking before is a bit of a wall builder...
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