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Thread: Cold after second date...help

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    Default Cold after second date...help

    Went in a second date with a girl to the cinema.

    Setting it up there was a film I really wanted to see, a sequel but she hadn't seen the first. I said about it, she then downloaded the first one and said we should go to the sequel. Went on the date, in the cinema kino flirting, such as play fighting over sweets, and by the end of it we were holding hands and her head was resting on my shoulder. When I dropped her home I went in for the kiss only to receive a peck on the lips. Then hugged her and she got out. She asked me to text her to let her know I'm home safe and after she replied.. 'You was confident' I said what about and then she said 'going in for it'. Had a bit of banter about it over text and that was it.

    However today she has gone cold, we have been constantly texting everyday for a couple of weeks and today I text first, asking how she was (she's been having problems at work) and the answers were quite blunt, and I'm now waiting on a reply.

    What should I do? We had already arranged to go on a next date and it's all booked up for the weekend. Any advice??

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    Default Re: Cold after second date...help

    Cinema dates suck. You're not talking, you're not looking at each other, which gives a very low window of opportunity to escalate.

    Stop with it.

    You two touched and whatever, it's kind of an escalation. But you stopped it. When you left the cinema, I guess you two talked about the importance of penguins in Arctic ecosystem, and when you left her at home you went in for the kiss. Do you see what's wrong in here?

    I'll tell you: she wasn't in the mood. You escalated and then you stopped. She was in the mood, then she wasn't. The right time to go for the kiss is when you're holding her hands, her thighs or whatever, not when you two are doing nothing. That's why she gone cold. You disappointed her. You weren't congruent with the feelings you created on her. Got it dude?


    Whenever you wanna kiss a girl, do it right after escalation. Holding hands, holding her thighs, kissing her neck, face, whatever, but right after the escalation, not two full moons after it.

    Good luck

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    Default Re: Cold after second date...help

    So how should I proceed? She's not texting..

    We' have stuff booked for Saturday but don't even know if she's gonna come now.

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    Default Re: Cold after second date...help

    First of all, calm down, you're too attached and you'll fuck up.

    Simply don't say shit and make other plans (which you won't do, because you're too attached, but nevertheless here are my two cents). If she says something, simply reply "Can't! Rain check for next wednesday/whatever sassy girl ! Don't be sad, I promise you I'll accept when you'll try to buy me a drink! "


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