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    Icenberg is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default She wants space, but also contacts me. How to handle?

    Long story short. Date with a girl two weeks ago where I stayed the weekend. Great sex and chemistry the whole time. Texted like we used to before we met every day after (texted for over two months before meeting up as it's long distance 5 hour by car).

    She became a bit more cold and less eager on texts the last days upon till 3 days ago when I asked her out on a 2nd date to get to know each other even better. She replied in a longer text explaining how she enjoyed the last date etc but felt she needed some time to get a view on things with her own life before involving others. I texted back that I'd give her space to figure stuff out.

    Didn't hear anything from her after that (as I expected ) and I didn't try to contact either. Focused the last 3 days doing snowboarding and other activities I love to do. posted some pictures from the trips on Facebook etc like i do when in single and enjoying life.

    Last night I got a snapchat pic from her (we used to snap many times a day before I gave her space ). Just a picture from some work she was finishing and a textline "soon vacation!". I didn't reply to this as I figured she will text me of she wants my attention.

    Now. I don't want to come off as too care, but not needy either. What do I do if I receive more snaps like these? Just play it cool saying like "enjoy the holidays!", being care and not respond, or any other options?

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    Default Re: She wants space, but also contacts me. How to handle?

    Would you reply if it were a male friend with which you had the same level of rapport? Always ask yourself this question

    P.S: You seem like a cool dude
    "The world will never change much less become what you want it to be. The only thing that can change is you. Face your fears, grow stronger and become what you want to be."
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    Default Re: She wants space, but also contacts me. How to handle?

    Thanks for the reply!

    If a friend would have snapped me saying "vacation soon!" I'd just reply "gaycation?" Or something

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    Default Re: She wants space, but also contacts me. How to handle?

    Snapped me a picture of her with a kid. Followed your advice and snapped back "ah, knew I should have used a condom!"

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    Default Re: She wants space, but also contacts me. How to handle?

    Is there a way to edit posts as it would be easier to just update the post above before anyone answers?

    Anyways update, she replied to the snap saying "true that!" and I didnt reply to that. A few hours later she snapped me again with her and a friend drinking beer and pointing to my favorite beer with the text "such a girl beer". I just wrote back "now you made me thirsty for that!". Figured it was a mild sh*t-test and i think i passed it by just ignoring the joking/mocking and sticking to my own frame of that being the best beer.

    she snapped me a few more pics of her and her friend drinking and eating snacks and such. Havent replied to any of those. Figured ill just reply to the ones that is directly related to me. I'll keep it loose and fun/flirty, I'll be non-reaction seeking so I'll never expect an answer back.

    Figured this will create the feeling I want of it not meaning that much to me, and if she wants to reinitate something with me she should be more clear and just talk to me. After all, right now, I feel like it's me that is having the most value in my own life and not her.


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