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    Question Made an ass of myself at martial arts class...how can I recover?

    I joined a marital arts class so I could be more alpha, get in shape and have some cool DHV stories. I have been going for a few months now. A few days ago while I was there a girl came in near the end of class and started watching. The class takes place in a gym so I figured she was walking by and saw us practicing and came in to watch.

    I saw a good opportunity for an approach and maybe some kino. I opened by walking up to her when class was done and everyone was stretching and cooling down. I said "Pretty cool stuff huh?" to which she smiled and replied "Yeah". I told her I have been doing it for a while and could show her a few moves since she seemed receptive and had given me an IOI. She smirked and raised her eyebrows and was all like "Oh yeah?" so I took her hand (trying to be alpha instead of asking) and started explaining pressure points. In the middle of my explanation she flipped her hand and attacked a pressure point on my wrist. Not only did it cause me to let go of her hand but it also made me yelp and double over a little.

    I found out later she used to co-teach the class and that she has been doing martial arts for more than half her life. She served in the military with the current instructor and had stopped in to visit him. Everyone heard me yelp and saw me fold and I'm afraid it was a huge DLV and made me look foolish in front of everyone. I also know it wasn't the best way to look alpha in her eyes. I started reading this forum when I got into PUA but I never had a reason to join before this because this situation is a complete unknown to me. If anyone has any advice as to how I can salvage my rep in the class I would appreciate it. Also what should I do if she comes in to visit again?

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    Default Re: Made an ass of myself at martial arts class...how can I recover?

    Don't beat yourself up over it. It sounds like you were just over-excited about martial arts and a little cocky about what you had learned and were trying to show off to her more so than you trying to hit on her. This is probably what she thought too. Sounds like she had fun one-upping you. So, you probably should have laughed and made a joke out of it. Maybe said something like, "well, you're a fast learner". This is nothing to get embarrassed about. In fact, this will make for a funny story to actually tell people later on.

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    Default Re: Made an ass of myself at martial arts class...how can I recover?

    A true High Value Aplha Man doesn't let stuff like this faze him.
    He uses it as an opportunity to joke & flirt.


    It's all about being able to adapt to whatever environment or situation you're in, and just be comfortable.

    I'm a freakin klutz... I constantly trip over stuff, walk into doors, knock shit over.... Etc.
    I just laugh about it & say "and this is why I can't have anything nice..."

    I use it to my advantage.


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    Default Re: Made an ass of myself at martial arts class...how can I recover?

    made me look foolish in front of everyone.
    man, you're taking this way too seriously. who cares what people think???

    a true alpha male knows how to laugh at himself. if it was me, I'd be making jokes about how that girl attacked me like a chimp after my bananas.

    you can't take yourself too seriously. true alpha's don't worry about what other people think.

    (yoda voice) learn to care not, you must!

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    Default Re: Made an ass of myself at martial arts class...how can I recover?

    "[After yelp] From the looks of it, I should be taking lessons from you."

    That's one example of how you could have responded to that. Laugh at yourself, and no one can use it to hurt you. I doubt she's not going to ever want to be with you, because of that.

    To tell you the truth I think it makes for a funny story.

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    Default Re: Made an ass of myself at martial arts class...how can I recover?

    Learn to laugh at yourself, and you will always be free

    The fact that you care, means that there's a deeper fear inside of you that you need to confront

    i.e. "I'm not good enough, so I have to prove myself"...

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    Default Re: Made an ass of myself at martial arts class...how can I recover?

    Yea like most people have said, you are looking too deep into this. If this happened to me, I would just laugh it off. I think it would be hilarious. If you don't take it seriously, then others won't either.
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    Default Re: Made an ass of myself at martial arts class...how can I recover?

    I would so use this story. I would see women in my proximity and put my hands up and something like "I come in peace don't hurt me." They'll likely look at you slightly confused, and I would continue, "I was already attacked by one woman this week."

    Likely, if your delivery is right they'll inquire. You can tell in a really charming way. I was in my karate class and I saw this hot girl so I walk over all smooth like. Boom tell the story, it's hilarious. It's an awesome icebreaker.

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    Default Re: Made an ass of myself at martial arts class...how can I recover?

    Wanted to throw out that assuming this was a legitimate Dojo and not just an MMA class, cocky-funny would be the absolute LAST thing you would want to do as a response. The martial arts are about humility, as you should have learned after this event. Don't get me wrong, my first year of karate was spent being a cocky douche because I "knew" karate. It'll soon fade into quiet confidence.

    If she's a top level instructor she's going to be into quiet confidence over projected ego. Seeing how there's a good chance she could kick your ass the only alpha move would be to admit that she is superior (in that regard), thus making you appear more alpha and saving face.

    Kino's right though. Use this story. It's hilarious.
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    Default Re: Made an ass of myself at martial arts class...how can I recover?

    If she's a top level instructor she's going to be into quiet confidence over projected ego.
    come to think of it cody, most chicks would take the guy with quiet confidence over the guy who projects his ego in an approval seeking way. not saying that cocky funny doesn't work, but oftentimes, true confidence can be projected without saying a word, where as people who fake confidence will always oversell themselves.


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