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Thread: too many dates leave you broke? lol

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    Default too many dates leave you broke? lol

    i mean it's great to have a lot of dates with a lot of girls, but what if it's too much of a good thing? When you take a girl out need to spend a lot of money on her dinner, movie, night club etc with multiple girls. And girls with shit test you and if they find out your time and energy was for nothing.

    is there a way to have fun with the girl and try to get lay without coming out as cheap?

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    Default Re: too many dates leave you broke? lol

    1/ Why do you have to spend money on a girl? There are lots of things that you can do on a date that cost very little or nothing at all.

    2/ Only an AFC will take girls out to a fancy restaurant or bar to TRY to impress a girl he just met. Try to eliinate costly dates.

    3/ everyone needs at least a little bit of money to live. Better yet it's great to have a lot of money. Just like gaming girls you should be looking to upgrade your skills whenever possible that will help you financially. Spend the money on yourself instead of the girls. Unless you are in a relationship then it's ok to buy them a gift on and dinners.

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    Default Re: too many dates leave you broke? lol

    ya i took a girl out to the park and walked around the lake. i thought the date was going well. on our walk she scheduled me for a movie night the next week. when i called the next day to confirm. she flaked on me. the date seems so good. we had a lot of laughs and she went out of her way to ask me for a 2nd date but she FLAKED :/

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    Default Re: too many dates leave you broke? lol

    This simple tip may work for you... It's not what you do, its how you do it.
    You : I have something fun for us to do... What's your money looking like on tuesday?
    You'd need at least 20 bucks I'll cover the rest..
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    put it in correctly and follow me.

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    Default Re: too many dates leave you broke? lol

    Quote Originally Posted by dave_xxx View Post
    1/ Why do you have to spend money on a girl? There are lots of things that you can do on a date that cost very little or nothing at all.

    2/ Only an AFC will take girls out to a fancy restaurant or bar to TRY to impress a girl he just met. Try to eliinate costly dates.

    3/ everyone needs at least a little bit of money to live. Better yet it's great to have a lot of money. Just like gaming girls you should be looking to upgrade your skills whenever possible that will help you financially. Spend the money on yourself instead of the girls. Unless you are in a relationship then it's ok to buy them a gift on and dinners.
    There are plenty of ideal dates that are cost-effective. A walk through the park is one, during the summer you have walks on the beach and just plain walking through town (unless it's a bad neighborhood). Cafes are also inexpensive affairs.

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    Default Re: too many dates leave you broke? lol

    My point EXACTLY! Do YOU want to live or just merely exist on a bunch of crummy non-memorable dates? Granted I played my last GF and got her to pay her way while I still did things on my own like buy her concert tickets, drinks, amusements, etc just nice gestures ya know but it wasn't about money. She got me into free bowling, paid for her meals, let me sleepover to save gas, etc. But it IS going to cost you as there is no such thing as a free ride. Who wants a free ride anyway? There are bigger problems in life like staying fit, keeping up with work, keeping your dental health and health overall up to tip top shape.

    I am working hard on improving my dental health at the moment while getting heavily tattooed and hopefully quitting smoking for good. All for Pick Up. I don't want to be some bum off the street.

    With that said I'll tell you a secret that is why I dumped my last GF. Not cuz I didn't like her or cuz I couldn't have sex with her I could have I just didn't want to bang a 9 I would rather bang a 10. She wanted something long term anyway. So I dumped her cuz I was tired of paying the gas, concert tickets and missed overtime meaning more money to keep it going.

    So my plan of action is pretty simple and cost effective. Dating is expensive no way around it. There are cheap occasional dates and you can hang at her place for free which happens a lot but she gets hungry and bored easily so hot women always want to do fun crap that also costs money. Blame them? I don't I just find loopholes and ways to work around it without trying to be a complete douchebag.

    So I game in the Summer and hibernate or "train" in the Winter. I am not just sitting on my butt doing nothing. I am hitting the Gym more, working tons of hours, getting dental work, getting tattoos, filling up my wardrobe, treasure chests of swagger and new stuff you know "preparation" for Summer. After all my gaming hit another level and I find Summer to be a very expensive venture with all the concerts, taxi's, drunken nights, Clubs, Bars, events, water park passes, beer festivals yeah it gets expensive and then to add Day 2's and short term relationships to this the expenses get utterly outrageous!! Which is why like I say over and over I practice hibernation habitually and for me it is absolutely necessary. The last time I been out was Halloween and my Game was getting insane. Having my GF on the side beg me to come hang out while going out to Sarge "oh the difficulty of life". I pulled a chick's number that night in 5 minutes, got to make out with a 9.5 who was a business owner and wanted to hookup on the spot but again I was dissapointed in myself for not pulling someone even hotter aka the bartender that night was my kyrptonite and she blew me out so some 9.5 was like candy to me. But I will try to bang more 9's "meh".

    Now granted HAD I kept it going I would still be in a rut but since then hit the dentist and only one expensive procedure left, got my new rib cage tatt, and on my way to finishing it as well as my shoulder to nearly finish my sleeve. The hairstylist is in love with my tattoos by the way. Anyway she keeps asking about them and then on top of that got caught up on my backlog of games. Now would this all be possible had I kept this concert relationship going? No! New Years alone is $300 (it was in me and me ex-GF's plan) so obviously I made the right choice having not gone as I got serious stuff to show for. Lastly and I'll close with these last few words.

    How did I make the right choice? By getting ahead I'll be ready next year to take the cocktail waitress (HB10) to a 3 day music festival. I plan on asking her to go but why ask her to go and EXPECT her to pay that's pretty rude. Anyway she says she is in love with me so $400 is nothing but a drop in a bucket besides I saved like probably way more dumping my ex so waiting a year being single is going to get me ahead of the Game and if it is not the Cocktail Waitress then it will be the Hairstylist or my next Summer GF. Either way doesn't matter I am saving big bucks being single and every time I get in a relationship I go only as far as I am willing to spend money wise then I drop out if I am counting the dollars then I am not in lust or love and time to move on.

    On that note I will not bang anything under a 9. The hairstylist is a 9 but sometimes I drop out due to losing interest in the target.

    In the Winter I get time to reflect, plan my next ventures, save money for bigger weekend blow outs you know have a crazier year than last year. I hate having to dump chicks over money but it happens every winter I dumped all my Summer girlfriends like clockwork. And dating multiple chicks at once while Sarging is even more daunting! But I still do it because it is one hell of a ride much better than any go round of excessively cheap dates. It is a flashy life for me but if you wanna win go your way then by all means...
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    Default Re: too many dates leave you broke? lol

    I think a good option will be to take a girl to the arcade place and you can play pool together. Gives you an excuse to touch her

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    Default Re: too many dates leave you broke? lol

    Remember: YOU are the prize, not the date. She ought to give not two shits about what you do... but care the WORLD about being with a guy like you.

    In a few weeks, I'll be going on what will be one of the more expensive dates in my life. I'll be spending about $500. And that's just for me. We'll be going dutch and she's covering her half. It's a swanky black-tie thing. She excitedly agreed to go with me because it's a really cool/fun thing, a rare opportunity. It's one of those things that she'll tell her other boyfriends about and they'll get jealous. I'm going because she's a fun HB9 and also a close friend, and I'll get some great social proof pictures, and absolutely have a good time. And since she's a friend, I can even pull stuff like hey, we need to take some pics to make your other guys jealous" thing. I'm not even considering it a date... it's just something fun that *I* want to do. I'd even do it alone if I had to. But instead, I have a HB9 coming along and paying her own way to spend time with me, knowing that we'll both have more fun together.

    Am I a loser for going with "just a friend" to this shin-dig? Hell no! I'm going to have a blast and have great pics to show for it and it's going to be an amazing date! And she knows I'm into pick up. She'll give me a few memorable shots to post and show off. All the better! You know tongues will wag! And hey, maybe we'll even find that we like going on dates together! Who knows? Oh.. and think about this: seeing those pics, who will have any idea who paid for what? What will their assumptions be? Yup... I'm a half-price baller! lol

    But no, I don't pay for dates. Not with her, not with the girls I'm hooking up with, not for prospective chicks. Here's the mindset: *I* am worth the time. *I* am worth getting to know. *I* am worth putting as much time into, as most guys would put into you. A dutch date with me is better than having some loser take you out to dinner. And if you can't see that, then there's really no point in you wasting your time with ME. PLEASE! Don't go out with me if you're not going to have an amazing time. And, if you are going to have an amazing time, then don't worry about the money because that's all rather secondary. Then what's my responsibility? It's a role-reversal. Instead of the girl thinking she's doing you a favor by getting dolled up, it's me doing HER a favor by prepping a date, making time, making plans, and handling contingencies. This friend of mine feels like she owes ME for letting her pay her own way to a shindig as I take care of the planning. And that's how it should be because, really, I AM the one putting in the time and effort... all she needs to do is buy a ticket, show up, and look pretty.

    It's all about being such a fantastic and fascinating and exciting person, that you could take her to a coffee shop and make her toes curl. If she feels that way about you, and you're still spending money.. it's only because you really want to. But, most likely, she'll want to do the same. Girls have more money than guys these days... because they have to spend less. So let them spend it on you, if you're worth it. Just make sure you can deliver... Overall, on my average dates from the past year, I'd say that the girls have probably put in about 2/3rds of the money. I'm not unwilling to spend it if it makes for a memorable time, I'm not unwilling to buy a round of drinks... but she shouldn't be unwilling either. And that's the key. Because the goal here isn't to pick her up. The goal is to have a great time. And you want her as much on that same page as you are. Once you have that, "gaming" becomes really easy because she's just as invested as you.

    Yes, by PUA standards, some of this makes me an AFC. I have lots of female "just friends". It sounds so pathetic, right? But I don't even give a crap. I have hot chicks who want take ME out. And want to spend time with me. And any girl who wants to get in my pants has to compete with several hot chicks who I'm already friends with, and who already get my time easily just by inviting me out to dinner. And those girls are real friends. I'd place talking with them on the telephone ahead of a random pick up, pretty much any night of the week, because I really like those girls! Now, you want to talk about creating jealousy? Hahaha! Done and done!

    Anyway, back to your original post. If you're counting money, you're doing it wrong.


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