Working my way through Tao. Enjoying all the stuff in there.
I'm just terrible at banter. I'm practicing on anything that will hold still. I seem to come off as rude when I try to make a joke, and people generally aren't warming to play along and joke around. Maybe I'm too sarcastic.
I feel like if I asked my friends they would say I try too hard to be funny.
Where is the balance?
What can I study? (I've researched improv)
It's frustrating cause I feel like I can start out well, and then at some point I loose what to continue talking about.
Guy at work showing pictures of his baby. "Wow, great pictures. I didn't know you could still buy kids off the black market, did you get a good deal." Him: "fark you"
Girl I've seen as a "regular" at a slow Restraunt bar. Me: "you look familiar, i know ive seen you here before. i never forget cute...cell phone case.". Her: "haha. I'm usually in here three nights a week." Me: "Does this place ever get busy, or are you the one responsible for paying the rent?" Her: "some times it gets busy." Spins in her chair picks up her phone, and keeps her head glued down.
Bartender I'm having fun with. Standing over by me, but at a service station. Looking down the bar zoning out. Me: "so how many breaks per hour did the union negotiate for you?" Her: oh you're mister sassy pants huh? I guess you'll be getting some of my sass now.
(This is awesome I think)
Her to a bar back: hey, apparently I'm on a break right now so ill be back in a while.
Literally she disappears, for 10 min. When she returns she avoids me completely, makes another bar tender give me my bill. Then when I'm leaving walks down to my end of the bar and says to the person next to me, "sorry, I'm back now." Which may not have been directed at me, but man it sure felt like it. I just smiled to myself. I have no choice but to go back in there, cause my boss takes me. Ps I had two drinks and 4 waters, I wasn't drunk, buzzed, or anything...
What do I do to up my banter game? This is brutal!!!