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    Default Girl with a boyfriend...

    A few months back I was hooking up with this chick - long story short, she was also hooking up with another guy, he won out and is now her boyfriend. No big deal, I moved on and continued spinning plates, got over it real quick.

    Lately she's been texting me though...just stupid little texts like "hey miss you what's up" and the like. If I answer at all, it'll be a day later and something short. Which brings me to my question...

    On the one hand, I want to tell her that I don't settle for second and we really have nothing to talk about as long as she has a boyfriend, but how do I do that without coming off as a giant dick? If/when she's no longer with this guy, I'd like to keep the door open for potential booty calls, since she was a fantastic lay. But even aside from that, I'm not a mean spirited guy - I don't hate her or anything like that and really feel no need to treat her like shit. Just want to let it be known that I have no interest in being "just friends."

    Normally I would just ignore it, but like I said, I'd like to keep that booty call door open for down the road.

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    Default Re: Girl with a boyfriend...

    Well if that's what you want keep doing what you're doing. Answer some of her texts but don't invest anything in the interaction. You're not really friends with her if you don't ever hangout with her. If you're short with her and don't invest heavily in the conversation you won't become her texting buddy while still remaining in contact.

    I've been in your situation before and one thing is very clear, her relationship will end sometime in the near future. I've had allot of FWB (or ex-girlfriends) who would contact me immediately after they broke up with their boyfriend. I've had even more get into contact with me BEFORE they break up. At first I was like "wtf she has a boyfriend" but after experiencing this scenario multiple times I realized that her relationship was on the ropes and she was looking for something else.

    I would guess that you could sleep with her now, and she would use that as an excuse to break up with her boyfriend. One thing I've found about women is they need an "excuse" to break up with their boyfriend. Some of them search for a new guy, sleep with them, then rationalize to themselves that they need to end their current relationship (and finally DO end it, after cheating on the guy of course).

    I like that you won't sleep with her now. I wouldn't either in your situation.

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    Default Re: Girl with a boyfriend...

    No, I don't need the potential drama that hooking up with her while she has a boyfriend would bring. Got other lines in the water, just wanna keep that door open for later. Besides, I generally avoid doing shit like that, it's bad karma.

    I guess I'll just keep doing what I'm doing just to stay in contact.


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