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    Default I'm Meeting Ariana Grande lol help

    Alright, so this is my first post on the forums, I've considering getting into PU, on and off, and I always procrastinate and never really hit the ground hard with it and progress, but basically this incident is important enough to where I felt I needed to bring it to the forum lol.


    I'm completely obsessed with Ariana Grande lol, if you're not familiar with who she is, she's a singer, that used to be an actress, and she's pretty popular right now, I've been following her for quite a few years. So like the whole fan worship thing, I have her picture on my phone background lol etc etc, I don't need to pain it I'm sure.

    Now here's the thing, although I'm completely obsessed, I also know a little bit about social interaction, and I don't plan to be an obsessed fan when I meet her. I've had another similar experience with this, with a girl who's a famous dancer, I ended up befriending and now we talk and text on a regular and what not, and I Used to only watch her on Americas Best Dance crew.

    So although being obsessed with Ariana, sounds like I'm ridiculously AFC, and hopeless lol... not exactly the case.

    So unfortunately the method I'm meeting her is by concert. If I still lived in California, I would have had a bunch of opportunities to meet her without it being so '' fan forced'' and it would have gone a lot better, but I joined the Air Force, I'm stationed in Missouri, you gotta work with what you got.

    So, the first stop of her tour, first show, is where I'm stationed at, so I found out I bought the tickets asap like last year, and I bought like the most expensive tickets, like the super deluxe backstage vip, after party etc etc whatever they had to offer, bought the best tickets possible, and I'm going next week ,so here are my concerns

    What I first wanna say is I'm not aiming for anything romantic, she has a boyfriend, a famous boyfriend, and regardless of if I think I could break that up, I would never. I'm literally aiming for the friend zone lol. I just want to stand out, make a good impression, and the ultimate all time end goal would be to get her to give me her number, non romantically.

    Now, granted it's a concert, it's very hard to not be a ''fan'' that's all that's there, I know some things to do just because I learned from the first celebrity I had a similar situation with, so small things that fans do wrong, like they don't introduce themselves, they just think their name is so unimportant they don't even bring it up, I definitely won't be doing that, I'm not going to ask her to sign anything, cause I think it's tough to have any sort of value if you're asking that of her, etc etc so I'm not gonna do the completely buster stuff that obviously makes you a fan


    Also I'm considering wearing my dress uniform to the concert, so although I'm not really a fan of the service and im leaving soon, I know that the uniform kind of holds a certain respect, and that it might be easier to perform well and appear as not a fan, if I'm already being demonstrated of higher value

    A good little side thing is hence the other celebrity dancer, I'm a dancer myself and I know a lot of people in the dance community, so Ariana's dancers, know all my friends. I know what studio they teach at and we have common names, and there's going to be this little dance after party that I imagine she might not be at the whole time but shes very likely to pop into, I think that potentially building good rapport with the dancers, could lead to something good.

    I feel like it wouldn't be hard since, they'll already relate to me just cause were in Missouri, so how does this random guy know about cali dancers and what not, and then me being in uniform I feel like they'll already expect me to be a certain level of... stiff and military, so when they see me being completely legit as shit, I think it won't be hard to get in good with them

    So my concern is when I'm dealing with Ariana..... what approach should I take to trying to separate myself from not falling into the immediate fan abyss, which I know is very difficult, and if anyway I can use some sort of angle or the dancers and such to get in good with her, good enough to just land a phone number

    Also her mom works with making equipment for the navy or some shit, so she might already have some sort of respect for the uniform, she possibly might even think its interesting or cool enough to where she might want to take a picture with me for herself, just cause for sure no one's ever came to her concerts in uniform before lol... people from the Military aren't even supposed to know who she is.

    So I just wanted some tips, some guidelines, clever ideas, good ways to avoid being a fan, and if you guys think its possible to pull this off at a concert where it's already so hard to not be a fan, anything is appreciated and I'll definitely report back how this goes after the Concert next week.

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    Default Re: I'm Meeting Ariana Grande lol help

    This will never work, no matter how hard you try and go about with it.

    First off, she is the princess, and you are the pauper. She will immediately put you into an inferior position because she is famous, she is at a concert, and you are a fan. I would say that you can break out of this by keeping the conversation outside of the concert, but what makes this almost impossible to do is that she is already taken. She is in a relationship with rapper Big Sean, so any attempts at getting closer to her will most likely be negated quickly.

    Sorry to be so harsh, but that's just how it is.
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    Default Re: I'm Meeting Ariana Grande lol help

    I don't fully agree with you, hence I was in a similar situation, and the girl was famous as well, and I made it happen, and I knew less then than I do now, I think it's definitely possible, especially with the potential good rapport from the dancers and the uniform, and the right angle, I was just posting here to see if anyone had any good ideas, I already know it CAN work.

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    Default Re: I'm Meeting Ariana Grande lol help

    And yeah I'm aware she's dating Big Sean lol. I hands down know the most about her out of anyone on this site lol.
    just looking for the young tips and tricks =p

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    Default Re: I'm Meeting Ariana Grande lol help

    Pro tip: rub one out and move on.
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    Default Re: I'm Meeting Ariana Grande lol help

    I firmly believe that when there is a will, there is a way. However, your likelihood of success here is extremely low. To increase the odds, I have some tips:
    1. Find Her Friends First and Get in with Them. You will not be able to directly access her, and even if you did, she would write you off before you even open your mouth. She's a celeb who's also taken: bitch/defense shield to the max. Furthermore, she will be surrounded by her posse, personal security, etc. I don't see how you could get time with her unless you sneak off during the show behind the stage to find where people are hanging, and then just try to fit in the group by name dropping (without being braggy or a know-it-all) and talking about the dance scene to establish a connection. From the friends, you work to her.
    2. Uniform. Do not wear it. When I see guys do that, I think that they're trying to show off (although I know that sometimes, they have to), and it looks kind of pathetic. Almost anyone can enlist - not to put you down, but it's true. I know the air force is tougher than other branches, but she won't know the differences in uniforms by looking. Wear comfortable clothes so you're happier and comfortable.
    3. Conducting yourself. For the love of all that is holy, please do not be a little girl and overreact. Play it super cool, as if you don't even care. She will wonder why and be more likely seek your attention. That's your best shot of getting her interested, especially if you already got it in with her friends there.
    4. Schmoozing. In the VIP, well-connected people are there. Rub shoulders but not with the obvious intent of social climbing. Just be cool. The coolest ones are not trying super hard to meet everyone they can because they're already connected.
    5. Pay off a bouncer. Put a $40 in your hand (far from him), walk up to him, look in his eyes, smile, stick out your hand to shake his, and say "Hey, hope you can help me out tonight if I ever need anything," while slipping the money in his hand during the hand shake. Be slick please.
    6. Don't Put P***y on a Pedestal. The more you build her up, the more likely you are to flub up. She's just another chick like any other, despite what your obsession is telling you. Speaking of which, you might want to talk to someone about your obsession. Celebrities are just people like you and I. Doesn't sound super healthy to drop thousands for the minute chance of merely speaking to someone who has no idea who you are.

    Good luck!

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    Default Re: I'm Meeting Ariana Grande lol help

    I firmly believe that when there is a will, there is a way. However, your likelihood of success here is extremely low. To increase the odds, I have some tips:
    1. Find Her Friends First and Get in with Them. You will not be able to directly access her, and even if you did, she would write you off before you even open your mouth. She's a celeb who's also taken: bitch/defense shield to the max. Furthermore, she will be surrounded by her posse, personal security, etc. I don't see how you could get time with her unless you sneak off during the show behind the stage to find where people are hanging, and then just try to fit in the group by name dropping (without being braggy or a know-it-all) and talking about the dance scene to establish a connection. From the friends, you work to her.
    2. Uniform. Do not wear it. When I see guys do that, I think that they're trying to show off (although I know that sometimes, they have to), and it looks kind of pathetic. Almost anyone can enlist - not to put you down, but it's true. I know the air force is tougher than other branches, but she won't know the differences in uniforms by looking. Wear comfortable clothes so you're happier and comfortable.
    3. Conducting yourself. For the love of all that is holy, please do not be a little girl and overreact. Play it super cool, as if you don't even care. She will wonder why and be more likely seek your attention. That's your best shot of getting her interested, especially if you already got it in with her friends there.
    4. Schmoozing. In the VIP, well-connected people are there. Rub shoulders but not with the obvious intent of social climbing. Just be cool. The coolest ones are not trying super hard to meet everyone they can because they're already connected.
    5. Pay off a bouncer. Put a $40 in your hand (far from him), walk up to him, look in his eyes, smile, stick out your hand to shake his, and say "Hey, hope you can help me out tonight if I ever need anything," while slipping the money in his hand during the hand shake. Be slick please.
    6. Don't Put P***y on a Pedestal. The more you build her up, the more likely you are to flub up. She's just another chick like any other, despite what your obsession is telling you. Speaking of which, you might want to talk to someone about your obsession. Celebrities are just people like you and I. Doesn't sound super healthy to drop thousands for the minute chance of merely speaking to someone who has no idea who you are.

    Good luck!

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    Default Re: I'm Meeting Ariana Grande lol help

    So I agree with the uniform, partially...... I'm not a fan of the service, as I said in my post and I'm literally going to be out in like a month, and I also think anyone can get in and I think wearing it like that is pathetic lol, BUTT I have unfortunately seen what it can do, and how people react to it, so say for example I got to the venue extremely early, like in the day way before the concert, and the workers of the building see me outside waiting...... they're not gonna let me just wait out there, they're likely to hook me up, or do me some sort of favor, and I was going to likely have a story prepared about why I '' had to'' just to cleanse off some of the " he's doing it so we think it's cool."

    So idk, I'm still on the fence about that, I would need a better cons, for why it's a bad idea, because if anything if she's gonna just write me off anyways, then I likely won't get a small opportunity to make any progress anyway, maybe that could be some sort of little perk, or some sort of edge that could create something for me.

    Also, I mean idk if maybe no one read the entire thing, but........ this has happened before, and I got the girls number lol, she was just less famous, but still famous, and famous enough to be having her own event with tons of her fans there, so I know not to act like a little girl lol, obviously I wouldn't have succeeded with the first girl had I behaved like that.

    And as for not building her up, I mean that's way over, it's been happening for years, granted knowing other celebrities, I fully grasp the concept that she's just another human being, but regardless if you follow someone for that long, you're going to feel a certain way about meeting them, however I won't be acting like that, but there's no way to take her off the '''pedestal" she's too far up lol.
    That's not going to change my performance though, still gonna do what I need to do

    And yeah I'll admit the obsession is pretty unhealthy, but it's pretty common, definitely millions of people that feel exactly how I do, so it's not unheard of at least.

    And thanks for the input

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    Default Re: I'm Meeting Ariana Grande lol help

    One idea I was thinking of was a Checklist

    So like for example while im interacting with her, because like I said I think it's likely ill have chances to interact with her throughout the night, theres a lot of little events for the night, so I was thinking I would put something on the checklist that's kind of strange, and then upon doing it with her, I would pull it out, and check it..... animated enough to where she knows it's a checklist and will for sure be curious to know what's on it

    Then I could put pretty funny / interesting things on the checklist, and depending on how I put them on their or how difficult they are to do or not, she could potentially just take the personal challenge to start fulfilling the checklist
    I feel like it's an idea that could possibly work to be pretty beneficial

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    Default Re: I'm Meeting Ariana Grande lol help

    you're paying shit tons of money for the best tickets avvailable. you're paying to get hooked up. you don't need a uniform for that. it looks tool-ish. that's the con. if you need to make up a story to justify wearing it, that's proof in itself that it's not a good idea.

    also, just because you may think a problem is common among people, doesn't mean it's ok to have. dont' comapre yourself to common people. you're already lowering your standards that way. and it's never too late to change. if you realize it's not healthy, do something about it. don't accept it. we're all here to improve ourselves and change for the better, not settle and accept negative qualities. no girl belongs on a pedestal, especially one who you've never even met.


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