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    Default Transition into Sex

    Hey guys, so I feel like A LOT of people have issues with this part of the attraction build so hopefully my question will pull some answers that will help more than just me.

    Here's the back story: I go to Ohio State University and I feel like I've been doing pretty well lately with number closes as I've gotten 5 I believe in the past 3 weeks (not at parties so). We have a rock climbing gym at school so I climb a lot indoors and out, which is where I meet a lot of newbie girls and typically offer to "show then the ropes"...... literally. And since I'm decently good, I get to show of fa bit while doing it.

    Anyways, I met this one girl a few weeks ago, helped out, got her number pretty quickly, and have taken her climbing like twice a week the past two weeks. I always try to act pretty straight-forward about things but fun, laid-back, and more dominant in the relationship which seems to work out well, but now I want to try and escalate this thing out of "climbing buddies" to more sexual activities I guess..... What I need help with is the transition into more of that kind of conversation and doing things that will help lead to it. Oh, also, I have been making sound like I was already going to go and am just inviting her along so that it doesn't seem like I am going specifically for her.

    My friends are decent at this part, but don't really have too many good tips to give so I thought I'd give you guys a crack at it. Let me know if you want/need any more details.

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    Default Re: Transition into Sex

    It's all about building sexual tension my friend. It's the fuel for the fire. It's so frustrating that enough of it will make a woman jump your bones. But you have to get used to that discomfort and not let it overwhelm you and learn to bathe in sexual tension.

    You build it with kino. Yes you can talk innuendo as well, but you have to really be good at language. Using words like hard and wet in normal convo can do this, but she basically has to be horny already to be affected by it. Most of the time I use kino while having normal conversation about something unrelated to sex. If you don't know kino escalation there's plenty of articles on it to look up. Just know that it's just as important to stop the kino as it is to start it. Maybe more important.

    The transition to sex involves privacy and heavy making out. I'll get into a bit of detail in case you have questions, but be warned it's a bit graphic.

    Say you are making out while she is on top. You almost always go for a soft book grab. It's the warm up. Then you should grab her ass for a bit. After that move your hand from her ass downwards, underneath to rub the fun part. It's a bit of a stretch, but it's doable and it should be done. Eventually you can rub underneath the pants and let her rub you or take her hand and place it. If you're spooning it involves basically the same type of escalation.

    Definitely have a plan for privacy. You need an isolation spot ahead of time. Knowing where you're going to get privacy relieves a lot of future headaches. Take her to a bar for drinks (or Applebee's). But if you're looking to not make it an obvious date then you can simply invite her to a public event (too much Destiny) and take one car. You have to get her into your place for 1 min before you head to the event. Say you forgot your credit card or have to take a dump (lol I'm kidding). Invite her in for a min while you do whatever you need to. It'll make her comfortable about deciding to come back to your place later if she knows what your place is like.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: Transition into Sex

    Yea you definitely need to start building more attraction by breaking rapport and escalate. Start small and build your way up into the kiss and pre-seed the pull to bring her back to your place or hers.
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    Default Re: Transition into Sex

    To add a bit of science to what BatMan wrote, make sure your place smells good ..... I would recommend Glade ' s Apple/Cinnamon or Fresh Linen, I have used Axe body spray as an air freshner, the Dark Temptations one smells like chocolate. Harvard University has done a very interesting study on women and smells. What they found was that smells women found pleasant triggered a response in the same part of the brain ( hypothalamus ) that is involved in attraction/romance. This causes the release of a neurotransmitter dopamine, a chemical that drives us toward a perceived reward. Other chemicals related to attraction are elevated as well, such as cortisol, phenylephrine (found in chocolate), and norepinephrine. The result of these chemicals bring released is obsessive pursuit of the desired, a relentless optimism, a feeling of etetnal happiness, and even a kind of addiction. So make sure your place doesn't smell like dirty socks, and wear some cologne or body spray because triggering activity in the attraction/romance part of the brain when you are with a girl is a very good thing .......Sorry for the science lesson but GL

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    Default Re: Transition into Sex

    Thanks guys for the tips. I can see pretty simply i guess how they would work well. drgnsfire12, the science actually interests me a lot which is why I like to do research on the psychology side of things and is actually how I found this site in the first place.

    If you guys have any more specific pointers on the escalation from regular conversation and actions to those that will build sexual tension, that is what I'd really like to hit hard on. I figure, given my situation, I will have to sneak in a bit more kino and whatnot while I take her climbing, as that's pretty much all I've done with her so far outside of texting. I think I can work it in pretty well since, like I said earlier, she's pretty new so I get to "direct" her through certain moves and such while I teach her. Don't know how much you guys really know about that stuff which is why I'm not getting too technical, but you can probably imagine pretty easily how the kino could come into play.

    As a last bit, I was thinking about asking her to grab food after one of our sessions just to hopefully transition into getting her used to hanging out with me outside of the gym and then continue to progress from there. My worry about all this, which is probably a good bit of info to give you guys, is that she seems like she's more of a "nice girl" type, and I have never been very good with escalating with those types of girls since I'm not sure how they react with the innuendo and such.

    Let me know if you've got any ideas for this and thanks for the help so far!


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