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    Default Too fast for my own good

    It's probably all in my head but I've been noticing that the girls I talk to usually high school or 20 and up usually fall under the pressure because I usually try to fit comfort,rapport, and attaction in the span of one week. (It's a bad habit I have gotten). Basically I'm thinking of the end game very quickly because I HATE long game. Anyway I try to build those up too quickly with a girl I've just met and things go wrong because I'm going to far. That's how I've been looking at ot. What do you guys think?
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    Default Re: Too fast for my own good

    You are obviously aware of the things you are doing wrong so you kind of answered yourself. Try to do something opposite of the things you are doing now. Also, make sure you actually figure out what girl wants or likes.

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    Hating long game has two problems. First of all, it makes it really easy to fall into the PUA frame, causing you to see less value in girls. Sure you can still get laid this way, but in the long run, it's a very limiting strategy. You'll get girls, but you'll never get the ones you want the most. I get that right now, at your age, you want the experience of the hook ups and all that. And you can definitely get that. But it shouldn't come at the expense of your overall growth and development as a person. And that means having friends and learning to develop relationships. Think about it. What is going to happen when you suddenly find that HB10 that you want to date, and you realize that you have zero game when it comes to maintaining a relationship? What then? That's why you need to work on building all the skills simultaneously and see how they all fit together. You can't focus on one thing and then just move on to the next when you find yourself in need of the next piece of the puzzle. All that's going to do is ensure that you always suck at the next step at precisely the time that you want it to work. Think of each of the different aspects of Pick Up as being like separate boats on the ocean. You are the ocean. Each of your waves can lift a single boat, but it is fleeting and temporary. In fact, the waves aren't even the real you, they're just little peaks along the way towards the ultimate goal, with them, naturally, comes the troughs. What you really need to do is have your tide come in and begin to lift all of the boats together in a way that is more sustainable.

    It sounds to me like maybe you're not casting a wide enough net, like maybe you're focusing on just one or two girls at a time. What that does is it causes you to zero in on that one interaction in a make-it or break-it fashion and that can cause a lot of neediness to get communicated, by way of bombarding her with messages, or being constantly in her face or whatever. It sounds to me like you aren't giving her the opportunity to chase you. Spreading a wider net will help fix this problem for you.
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    Default Re: Too fast for my own good

    Damn, isn't that the truth. Yeah I get what you're saying. I see myself right now as playing the numbers game instead of actually TRYING to get to know the girl which use to work but it's now messing me up. Like after a couple of weeks I would usually delete the girl's number if I'm not getting my way. So would you recommend me playing the long game?
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    Default Re: Too fast for my own good

    It depends on the girl and environment how fast you can run game. Cold approach in night game you can usually run "fast" game and it is usually the best strategy to go for a SNL because the mood is right and set for that. Some girls just need more time and comfort. I remember when I got used to just always going for the SNL until I started running into girls that just needed more time. In the beginning I would just toss their number if I didn't laid by Day 2 or 3. Now, I pursue things a little further if I sense she just needs more comfort and eventually lay them. I still game them by breaking rapport, qualifying and escalating and if I think I can go for the kiss or pull them I will go for it. Test and try both strategies and see what works best.
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