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    Default "Girlfriend" wont sleep with me any more - interesting story

    Hey pals,
    Had first date went well. Then couldn't get her to another one for few weeks (now I know she was still sorta with her old boyfriend). She parked at my house and we went out for the whole day right away.
    After coming back SHE wanted to see the house and then we laid down on couch to watch a movie (her idea).
    I started coming on to her she refused and asked to stop.
    Then snowstorm started so she couldnt drive back home. She stayed over and wanted to sleep on the couch I refused so she was almost fully dressed and came to my bed.
    All I got to do (it took so much effort) is make out with her and finger her. She wouldnt fuck.
    Next date she also came to my house. Watched movie same way. Wouldnt do anything.


    • I have much more feelings for her then she does and she knows that.


    Another time she acted as a fucking idiot, called apologized and came over. This time we had sex. I came too fast (I think due to my emotional thing with her)
    Few more times same thing happened (I didnt sexually satisfy her although she said this is not that important)

    Then we went out to a party with a lot of friends (her idea) so they found out about our relationship. She felt cold so I was warming her up. She said I was too nice and she usually rides on one's neck in this situation. During the evening she was trying (implying) to buy her and expensive painting which I didnt.
    She wouldnt go home with me that night and few more times that I wanted to see her. Excuses all the time like I want to sleep at home, want to take a bath want to do some work.... Although she lives with a roommate girl.

    Today again same excuse - wouldnt want to see me BUT she already scheduled with me to go to 2 parties with lots of people we both know.

    MY QUESTION IS:
    What the FUCK is going on? if she sees someone on the side why would she publicize our relationship?

    Some time in our conversation when I get too nice with her and express my feelings she says too fast everything is too fast that she is not there yet but trying to get there hard.

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    Default Re: "Girlfriend" wont sleep with me any more - interesting story

    She has you in the provider frame, so she is making you wait. Build more attraction. Be more fun! Be exciting! Make her laugh! Get her into her emotions!
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    Default Re: "Girlfriend" wont sleep with me any more - interesting story

    Thanks much for you reply.

    provider frame?
    meaning she fucks somebody else but just wants money and social life from me? She is sorta public person so if she fucks someone it will surface up and she will be considered a whore.
    If she doesn't fuck anyone why the hell she does this shit to me?

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    Default Re: "Girlfriend" wont sleep with me any more - interesting story

    because she thinks that you might dump her. Dont we all do this? we scare the shit out of these women...get them too close to us and dump them. she is probably being careful.

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    Default Re: "Girlfriend" wont sleep with me any more - interesting story

    Don't buy into the bullshit PUA mindset where the provider is the guy she eventually settles down with while she's fucking other guys in the short term. The first part is true, but the second part is just there to spike you emotionally and make you freak out like a little girl. It doesn't "mean" that she's fucking other guys. It just means that you are being the comforter, rather than the emotional roller-coaster.

    When I saw that comment about her asking you to buy her a painting, I was like, "Oh man! That's some real provider shit right there! She's trying to make you a sugar daddy!" But on the other hand, she's practically throwing herself at you and she's not ashamed to be with you, so it actually sounds to me like a potentially good relationship. HOWEVER...

    You're not being enough of the fun and exciting guy. You aren't spiking her emotions. For an alternative viewpoint though, consider reading the 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman. Maybe you're with a girl for whom gifts are her primary love language. Maybe, for whatever reason in her past, she associates love with receiving gifts. I'd say that that analysis actually makes more sense based upon what you've said.

    I'm not saying I'm right. I really don't have enough details. But reflect on it... see where it leads.
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    Default Re: "Girlfriend" wont sleep with me any more - interesting story

    I agree with blackbird. You need to break more rapport. If you have a strong enough frame and lead, the relationship will go more towards your favor.
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    Default Re: "Girlfriend" wont sleep with me any more - interesting story

    Qwerty you really need to figure out WHY you didn't sexually satisfy her and work on that.
    "The purpose of our lives is to be happy" - his Holiness the Dalai Llama of Tibet

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    Default Re: "Girlfriend" wont sleep with me any more - interesting story

    New development. We have a public event we are going to today (she invited me to it). She wants to go on her own car.... I mean not wants but she offered. I said I dont understand the reason she said I dont have to.

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    Default Re: "Girlfriend" wont sleep with me any more - interesting story

    And also what do you mean "emotional roller-coaster" pull her in and then push her away?

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    Default Re: "Girlfriend" wont sleep with me any more - interesting story

    Basically, I mean be exciting and fun. Get out of your darned head.


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