I just remembered this. I'm not sure if it's PUA related or not, but it came to my mind, so I thought I'd share. I think this is the most valuable lesson my parents ever taught me. See if you can spot how it relates to PUA.

My parents were high school sweethearts. They got married after college and I was born a few years later. I have an older sister. When I was young, say around 10 years old, another pair of high school sweethearts that my parents were friends with and had grown up with, were getting divorced. It was really messy. Of course, I wasn't old enough to really understand all of the details, but many years later, my mom told me this story.

The two of them were very bitter towards each other. The woman told my parents, "Either you can be friends with him, or you can be friends with me! You have to choose. So whose side are you on here?"

Whose side would you take? The man's or the woman's?

My parents looked at each other, looked at her, and said, "We've always been friends with both of you and we see no reason to change that. It's you, not us, who is making the choice."