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    Default Seeing someone

    So I've gotten to know this girl in class a bit and we've had some pretty great conversations about non related class subjects. We smile really big smiles every time we see each other, she finds her way coming to me very often and we even stand really close and there's always a part of us that's touching. So I decide to ask her out the first time very casually. I tell her that some friends and I are going to hit a bar and that she should TAG along. That it'll be fun. She uses this excuses of not being in a happy cheerful mood to go out and thanks me for the offer. I neg her for her dark girl mood persona she has put up and even give her a nickname. She seems to like it. I freeze her out for a week and try my luck again. I text her out of the blue just like this: "hey dark moody girl, let's cheer your spirits tonight. Location: Churchills. Time:9. Coverage Fee: I got you. Dress/Wear:something cute. Won't take no for an answer lol bring a friend it'll be fun." She writes back,"heyyy I'm at work. I thought I should let you know I'm seeing someone. I don't know if you're trying to ask me out on a date. So I thought I should let you know." I wait a long while and I write back, "ah, you're such a girl." She immediately writes back, "what do you mean?" I take about an hour to answer and I tell her I was just teasing. Since that, nothing has happened. I don't know what my next move should be. I kinda really am into this girl. I'm kinda tired of pursuing girls that don't seem too interesting anymore. I could just move on along and continue on some other girl, which I am. But I don't wanna do that. So what should my next move be? I can sense things will be awakward now when we see each other in class but I know I should avoid that and act cool and not bothered by it. Should I get more info on this dude she is seeing? She used the words seeing someone instead of bf. Any help please would be appreciated like always

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    Default Re: Seeing someone

    The good thing is she is "seeing somebody" and she's not talking boyfriend ...... so how do you do this ???? By, when you see her in class, being interesting, and funny, and flirty, and confident, and a little cocky ...... that's how you blow the other guy out of the water and after a few weeks ask her out again if again, she says she is seeing somebody tell her that you are seeing somebody too but your not married so what's the big deal ???..... and don't ever say you were just teasing ...... You were asking her out, there is nothing wrong with that ......... GL
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    Default Re: Seeing someone

    So what should my next move be?
    while you're not out of options, you're close to being out of options.

    "ah, you're such a girl."
    instead of saying that, you should have questioned why she even mentions that she's seeing a guy. after all, you just want to go out and have fun.

    I do like dragonsfire's frame of "I'm seeing somebody too" that is one good way to deal with her bullsh!t.


    now, in my personal opinion, I don't believe in chasing after girls. I've done it too many times and came up empty handed. so I would just bench her and if she comes around, she comes around. but I wouldn't waste much energy on her. life's too short to chase after women who are either un-interested or playing coy, when you could be farking girls who are more attracted to you.

    also, I have found that the best way to game girls who you have class with, is to get insta-dates to locations on campus instead of trying to get them out to bars or fancy restaurants.

    my personal favorite is to just take them to lunch at the campus cafeteria. it works well because most of them are going there every day anyways. (thus they are very comfortable in that environment) (the library can provide a similar experience on a smaller campus)

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    Default Re: Seeing someone

    Try to call her out again and tell her that it is not a date, that you just want to spend some time with her, no obligations. If she accepts, then you try to find out more about that other guy. However, follow her moves so to speak, to see what you should do. Don't push anything.

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    Default Re: Seeing someone

    Thanks guys, these are really great advice. Just to clarify some things, the "ah, you're such a girl" part was the tease, not me asking her out. I got that line from T-Mal. He told me to use it on some girl who told me the same thing once. So when I heard it this time, I remembered his advice.

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    Default Re: Seeing someone

    Dude ...... never ask a girl out and then tell her it's not a date, that's so AFC, bottom line is your going out , who cares if it's a date or just hanging out

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    Default Re: Seeing someone

    I never told her that it wasn't a date.

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    Default Re: Seeing someone

    I think he was responding to fancy16
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    Default Re: Seeing someone

    drgnsfire12 has a good frame for this. If a girl is seeing someone, it doesn't mean much. Regardless of her status, unless I know she is in a serious relationship or married, I will game her as normal. Break rapport, qualify and escalate when appropriate.
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    Default Re: Seeing someone

    Quote Originally Posted by DSAN1 View Post
    Dude ...... never ask a girl out and then tell her it's not a date, that's so AFC, bottom line is your going out , who cares if it's a date or just hanging out
    You cannot say to someone to NEVER do something like you are some kind of expert in this field. Each person is different and has different needs. You speak like you have meet all the girls in the world and you know that this is forbidden to do. ) I don't know what kind experience you have. But we all have a different one and maybe I said something out of mine?


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