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    Default Thinking on your feet !

    As a beginner here I'm very curious how long does it take you guys to really be able to process the Information here and always have it in your mind --- I find I always think about what I should've said and she did right after the meeting or conversation and I have a hard time remembering the stuff in the moment is there any advice you could give to try and stop this ?

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    Default Re: Thinking on your feet !

    I think it just comes with practice.For example yesterday I met a girl ,kissed her(she gave me her side cheek though) ,flirted with her and she groped my ass when she was with me.Next week I am seeing her again

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    Default Re: Thinking on your feet !

    With the more experience you get, you'll get to the point where you won't have to remember stuff, it will just come to you. The idea is to become a good conversationalist who can talk to anybody. It's something you should practice daily as you go about your life ..... just strike up conversations with random strangers ..... they don't have to last long but the point is approaching, opening, and talking ...... as a side when I first started I would carry cheat sheets of material with me to clubs and bars .......very freaking lame but it gave me confidence .... lol !!!
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    Default Re: Thinking on your feet !

    I find I always think about what I should've said and she did right after the meeting or conversation and I have a hard time remembering the stuff in the moment is there any advice you could give to try and stop this ?
    this means you're doing it right. if you're in the moment, you shouldn't be thinking about this stuff.


    when in set you need to be in the moment, not trying to remember some fancy lines you've read. you should be focused on the interaction at hand, you can analyze it later. you shouldn't be so worried about gaming or potentially making mistakes. (you can think about how things went after the set is long gone)

    sometimes the best game, is no game.


    I have found that I have the most success when I'm just having fun bullshitting with cool people bouncing good vibes around.

    for whatever reason, girls can pick up on "gamey" guys. (I even know a girl who refers to them as "big game hunters" lol) you know the kind of guys I'm talking about, the guys who go out like they're on a mission. "must.. get... sex.." those guys usually end up going home by themselves and making love to rosie palmer... lol don't be one of those guys.


    the key to becoming a natural is to always live in the moment, and learn mostly from experience. the big thing that pua books will help you with is that they can give you some good ideas, and general guidelines. but study alone won't make you succeed. pua is an art, its 20% study, 30% self improvement, and 50% practice.


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    Default Re: Thinking on your feet !

    I tend to be a good quick thinker on my feet. At least I like to think so. The way I see it, I just say what's on my mind while projecting a positive aura. It is not what you say but how you say it. People get a little chuckle at some of the things I say, even though later on I'm like, well that wasn't that funny. But who cares, in the moment it probably seemed funnier.

    The other upside is I have Adult ADHD which makes me impulsive. I use it to my advantage.

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    Default Re: Thinking on your feet !

    The other upside is I have Adult ADHD which makes me impulsive. I use it to my advantage.
    you're not the only one with adult ADHD... I have it too.

    its a blessing and a curse. sometimes I have trouble staying focused and in the moment, especially when I have to listen to boring people talk. I have literally just ended conversations because I got board of them.

    but when I'm focused, I'm on point. I even impress myself sometimes. the real advantage to having ADHD is that you can usually raise peoples energy up a notch given the chance.

    I think ADHD is a real advantage, as long as you manage to channel all that energy into things that are productive.

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    Default Re: Thinking on your feet !

    Your game will start to become more automatic and natural the more you approach and stay in set. You will have enough reference points and start seeing patterns in social situations and instead of focusing on micro game and calibration, you will begin to focus more on solving logistics and soon that will start to become easier as well. I write field reports after every night of going out.

    When I first started to learn game, I remembered more of what I said because I was practicing my own material that I saw were getting results. Now I hardly remember what I said because I'm much more in the moment. In the beginning though, try to remember what you said, how you said, what you were doing and what she is doing and the effect of your actions on hers and you will start to see more patterns.
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    Default Re: Thinking on your feet !

    Quote Originally Posted by meteora View Post
    you're not the only one with adult ADHD... I have it too.

    its a blessing and a curse. sometimes I have trouble staying focused and in the moment, especially when I have to listen to boring people talk. I have literally just ended conversations because I got board of them.

    but when I'm focused, I'm on point. I even impress myself sometimes. the real advantage to having ADHD is that you can usually raise peoples energy up a notch given the chance.

    I think ADHD is a real advantage, as long as you manage to channel all that energy into things that are productive.



    Lol. That's me in a nutshell. I have walked away from people during a conversation and went to search for something more stimulating when my symptoms were bad, but I socially calibrated it and got better at excusing myself.

    Oh, when you're focused it's fun, everything drowns out and you start free flowing. I think people crave that energy, because there isn't enough of it in their daily lives. So when the weekend come through, I give my friends a little lift. i have spurts of it during the weekdays at work but I haven't figured it out yet.

    How old are you? I only found out I had adhd a couple months ago...so I am still trying to undo some bad habits that were left unchecked.

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    How old are you? I only found out I had adhd a couple months ago...so I am still trying to undo some bad habits that were left unchecked.
    I was diagnosed at a young age, I took some kind of test when I was like 12 years old, my parents never told me what it was for, then they started giving me "vitamins" every morning while I was 13, however, it didn't take me long to figure out that they were the cause of my lack of energy. so I secretly stopped taking them by rolling them under my tongue when my parents watched me take them, and then spitting them out when no one was looking. I did this for like a year before my parents caught on and just stopped making me take them. I later discovered the bottle they were in and it was labeled "Straytera" (or something like that) witch is a generic drug to replace adoral. I did research and finally deducted that I had ADHD. (or at least had been prescribed medication for it) I didn't think much of it at the time, but now I can look back and see how it really affected my academic performance in both high school and college.


    I am currently 21 years old (my birthday was in December) (for some reason people seem to think I'm older than I really am)

    lastly, people seem to think ADHD is something you grow out of, but I don't think so. I still have mood swings, I get distracted easily, and multi-tasking is not my thing. however, if I'm focused enough on achieving something, I can usually accomplish it.

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    Default Re: Thinking on your feet !

    When you know your shit...I think it is natural for people to think you are older, especially if they can't see you and you are just writing on a forum. Ha. I think people misunderstand ADHD. There is a bad stigma that goes with it and half the people probably think you are trying score some adderall. I am not prescribed meds yet, but I will get them for when tough times call for drastic measures in this little world called life.


    I have the mood swings, too. And they kind of interrupt my seduction at times and then I have to do a little damage control. For example, last night I tried to get a booty call in, I got annoyed that she took awhile to respond and I was ok with just sleeping but I needed that text of yes or no. She called me a douche...so now I have to work on that.


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