Sorry for the really huge post, just want to give any detail that may help.
Im a member of a kind of group (cant describe it exactly) that has meetings once a week. Almost half of my best friends are members too. One of them brought his very good friend (absolutely platonic relationship) that is a Seductress (Pandora's box term). She gave me signs and I took her out a Saturday night. We had great fun and we kissed. She pretty much initiated most of the physical touch, not the kiss too, and I let her chase me. So far so good. She told me that she prefers not to announce our thing to the group which had a meeting the next day. Of course I wasnt suppose no to tell anybody, lol, just to not announce to the group coz she thought it would seem she has no real interesting in it and it would seem sluty. At the meeting when she left I walked to the train station and got back coz I had smth else to do. We kissed and everything was fine. We didnt talk about some kind of commitment or relationship at all but talked a bit about future dates so I know she wanted me for the longer-than-so-far term. Next week she didnt continue initiating text conversations like she used to do the weeks before. She also didnt want to date with me in the weekend (she lives 1-1.5 hours away so theres no chance of dating in weekdays). I told her she could come to an event I would anyway go on Friday night and also that we could date at Saturday night but she had a class in Friday and some birthday of an aunt or smth similar on saturday night. On the group meeting she kinoed a bit and flirted with a friend of mine who tried to ignore her since he knew the situation and I thought that it was ok because she always used very much physical touch with her good friend so at the end I tried to kiss her pretty much to have the assurance everything is ok ( i had ignored her in the meeting ) but another guy was there that didnt know the situation so she resisted and our mouths barely touched. She left with that guy for the train station. (I didnt offer to go with her) I ignored her for the next week, didnt offer date and didnt text her at all. On the next meeting at first I wasnt cold or smth but wasnt like there was smth between us too. Then she started acting like a total slut, kinoed too much with the guy that flirted on the last meeting, shat on him etc. and kinoed and flirted a bit with the others too. After that, I totaly ignored her, was very cold with her. 4-5 persons including her and I left for the train station and at some point she tried to play with my hands or smth. She looked at me she saw I was compeletely unemotional. She asked me if she was being annoying for fun, not really believeing she was but I answered "yes" very seriously. She tried to laugh it through but she kinda stared down. (thats when she understood my coldness i think) Minutes later when her train came and we were going to seperate I just said an unemotional "bye" and turned my back just after that (not in a way that showed i could not maintain eye contact but that i didnt feel the need to connect more) and tried to say a warmer "bye" and touch my shoulder while I was already walking away. I ignored. 3-4 days have passed and ofcourse I havent texted her.
I think that i should wait for her to initiate meeting or conversation in person and not talk about the situation via texts. When she asks me what's going on etc I m going to tell her that i dont have neither the energy or the will to deal with people that disrespect me and if the subject goes there, that actually acting like a slut makes her look like a slut and not announcing our thing, or is it too bad? Also I am probably going to game another girl that i see almost every day and has showed me signs. She is a hopeful romantic. Should I somehow mention it in some conversation?
What do you think about he whole situation? I would really appreciate some advice.