I have a thing going on with this HB I met a few days after the new Year. We were basically set up by a couple of friends and it turned out we clicked really well between us. The only problem is that we live in different countries and all the contact we have had so far was virtual (Viber, skype and such) except for the very first time we met. What happens is that we have been chatting almost every single day since January and we have really started getting to know each other pretty well. We have discussed about several topics (exes, relationships, life goals, etc.) and we are very similar in how we think and view life.
Of course I am careful to DHV enough and to show that I have a life of my own (which I do). I always tell her about this party, event, exhibition or concert I went to and she seems quite impressed by my active social life. In general, I have a strong feeling that she is attracted to me as she keeps asking for my opinion/advice (validation), spontaneously sending me pictures of herself (without being prompted to) and has been very (a bit too much) curious about my previous love life and whether I have ever dated a girl of her nationality.
Now, I am going back home in a few days and we will finally meet in person again. I have to say that I am quite pumped up and I intend to make a move. Some of my buddies say it's too soon for a first date and I will intimidate her. I, on the other hand, believe that we know each other well enough by now and it's now or never to make a move.
I am almost certain she is attracted, so there shouldn't be any problem. But ok, let's suppose things don't work out as I want and she doesn't respond to my move on the first date. Should I persist and try again during a second date or should I cut her off altogether?
Honestly, I am a pretty good catch for her and she would be losing out. I also don't care as I have other options. However, this girl has caught my attention as she matches quite perfectly with my personality and temper (and that's quite difficult to achieve, believe me). She comes on top of my other options and I would like to make it work. She doesn't have a steady job, so I could even bring her to the country I live in if things go further.
Anyway, so my question is how much persistence should I show? If she suggests a LJBF arrangement, I will probably cut her off entirely from my life and not spend a further minute for her. However (jugding from my experience on how I hooked up with my ex), persistence pays off and she eventually gave in (we kinda hooked up the same way and stayed together 3 years). So, if she turns me down, should I persist or should I move on? I will be staying for one full week, so I will probably see her more than once.
Thanks for any advice!