Re: Social Circle Game vs. Going-out solo/ with wings
It depends on your attitude. The solo guys you're talking about are the gunners. They are out there night after night to sarge and fine-tune their game by trying out numerous chicks. They're quick to move on from a girl to another. They don't necessarily have fun every night if their happiness depend on their close counts.
In a social circle, everything plays out more slowly. Atmosphere is more relaxed. A group of people went out together and they're looking to pass time, to have fun. Now that doesn't mean hookups can't happen. I personally like gaming in a social circle because I think it gets you under the radar.
Consider sarging out alone or with a wing. You'll approach people who are complete strangers and the possibility is that they will figure out what you're trying to do. That realization raises b1tch shields pretty quickly, whether instinctively or not. But in a social circle, everyone knows each other, everyone is more open. I think that gives you a little bit of discretion and it's more likely that your failures will be considered as friendly behavior rather than crash & burns.
It's not about who I was or who I'm going to become.
It's about who I am. Do it right here, right now.