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    Default How to start improving myself ?

    Hello, I am Ralph 25 years old.
    I have never ever had a girlfriend, I don't socialize a lot, I have low confidence and self esteem and I really suck at conversation.

    I want to improve myself and get a girlfriend, but all seems really hard.
    I have started to improve myself by stop watching pron and masturbate and started to work out....

    But still I can't talk to girls like in a flirty way to attract them to date me.

    Sometimes I am very confident person and I don't be shy to ask to speak up in class or anywhere,
    but most of the time I am a shy lonely guy sit at home most of his time.

    I have started reading some books on self improvement such as "How to win friend and influence people" gave me some really nice tips about socializing.

    BUT in talking to girls I still have no clue at ALL... What to do ?

    How can I overcome my approach anxiety ?

    Any book help ?

    Thanks

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    Default Re: How to start improving myself ?

    That's a good book, but as you said it's not for flirty stuff.

    Search this forum, check out the sticky threads. They'll give you a start.

    Check out the self improvement section as well. We've reviewed a lot of books in the past and most of them are in there somewhere. You can find most of those books as PDFs if you simply Google them.

    After you think you've absorbed enough information, TRY them. Go out in the field.

    Welcome to our ranks, let's have some fun together.
    It's not about who I was or who I'm going to become.

    It's about who I am. Do it right here, right now.

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    Default Re: How to start improving myself ?

    Quote Originally Posted by Wolf24 View Post
    That's a good book, but as you said it's not for flirty stuff.

    Search this forum, check out the sticky threads. They'll give you a start.

    Check out the self improvement section as well. We've reviewed a lot of books in the past and most of them are in there somewhere. You can find most of those books as PDFs if you simply Google them.

    After you think you've absorbed enough information, TRY them. Go out in the field.

    Welcome to our ranks, let's have some fun together.
    thanks for your help bro, appreciate it.

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    Default Re: How to start improving myself ?

    Hello! I was in your same situation at 19.


    Believe me, you can do it! Just work hard on yourself.


    I recommend you read the book "Positive Mental Attitude-Napoleon Hill"


    Also "The Tao of Badass - Joshua Pellicer"


    Another thing that will help is to put small daily challenges:
    1. Ask a girl her name or her phone
    2. You can request information in a place you do not know
    3. Phoning a friend to ask anything
    4. Look at all the people in the eyes for a day.
    6. Decide and choose things in your class group, review and explain why you say it is the best option.


    You need to get out of your comfort zone. If you want to grow, there is no better way.
    the only reason you're afraid is because you have fear of rejection and fear of the unknown.


    It is not "acting" when fear disappears, it's about taking action even When the fear is "there".

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    Default Re: How to start improving myself ?

    Oh wow, number 3 reminded me of something I did. There was a challenge in Style's "Rules of the Game".

    It challenged you to dial a random number and convince the person to recommend a movie without acting like someone you're not. Since I've had huge anxiety issues talking on the phone, that was even more thrilling than approaching a girl, which became insanely easier after that.
    It's not about who I was or who I'm going to become.

    It's about who I am. Do it right here, right now.

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    Default Re: How to start improving myself ?

    Quote Originally Posted by Envectus View Post
    Hello, I am Ralph 25 years old.
    I have never ever had a girlfriend, I don't socialize a lot, I have low confidence and self esteem and I really suck at conversation.

    I want to improve myself and get a girlfriend, but all seems really hard.
    I have started to improve myself by stop watching pron and masturbate and started to work out....

    But still I can't talk to girls like in a flirty way to attract them to date me.

    Sometimes I am very confident person and I don't be shy to ask to speak up in class or anywhere,
    but most of the time I am a shy lonely guy sit at home most of his time.

    I have started reading some books on self improvement such as "How to win friend and influence people" gave me some really nice tips about socializing.

    BUT in talking to girls I still have no clue at ALL... What to do ?

    How can I overcome my approach anxiety ?

    Any book help ?

    Thanks
    Instead of watching porn try some romantic movie to see what guys do. You can find many advices online too. First of all you have to be 100% self-confident, and be relaxed when approaching a girl. If in a bar, simply say Hi, how are you. Do you mind if I sit here and buy you a drink, I promise I will be nice. . Start some casual conversation.


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