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Thread: Best way to handle gf that is always working?

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    Default Best way to handle gf that is always working?

    So I've been dating this lady for a few months. I'm really getting sick of her always working 12 hours per day... etc...

    I'm trying not to be needy and jealous, though it might come off that way. I work from home, and we were planning on moving in together next month.... But I'm just getting tired of trying to schedule my time around her work hours.

    I've asked her several times, "are you sure you're committed to this relationship? I used to work 12hrs a day. But I was single. I really don't like calling off our plans, waiting on your work schedule to make plans and get left holding my dick when you can't reschedule stuff at work that popped to break out plans."

    For example, we had plans on Saturday and she told me yesterday she just found out she got scheduled for work on Saturday. Before she left this morning, I told her, "I'm just assuming we are not doing anything Saturday.". She said, "ok, but will you still go out if I can reschedule work?". I just gave a C/F response; no committing to a "yes" or a "no".

    Then about 10 minutes ago a friend texted me and asked if I wanted to come watch the Mayweather fight on pay-per-view.

    I gladly accepted, then texted her saying, "I think I'm going to Charlie's Bar on Saturday with some friends. That way you can work, and I know what I'll be doing. We can do something Sunday night if you want". A friend had invited me to watch the Mayweather fight at a club (he managed to reserve a table and offered to pay the cover to get for the fight).


    I hate to say I'm getting "needy", but I am a little. However, I really don't like waiting to make plans around her work schedule and I've mentioned this in the past.

    Reading that novel of a post... answer my this, guys! IS this a good way to put my foot my foot down with out being a super-dick and sounding needy? Just telling her, unless we commit within a reasonable time-frame, I'm gonna assume it's fair game to make plans of my own, and we are not doing anything?

    I'm just getting tired of working around her work schedule. I've let her know several times, I really don't like always needing to wait on plans for her schedule that may or may not turn out. So many times I've been stuck not being able to do stuff and sit at home because I was unable to make any plans while waiting on her schedule.

    Advice - criticisms - conjecture - opinions welcome!

    TIA!
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    Default Re: Best way to handle gf that is always working?

    You're crazy man. Only a few months in and you guys are moving in together? DON'T DO IT.

    And you already sound needy. She works alot, you don't wait around like a sick puppy. Do something, preferably that will improve yourself in some way. Take up a hobby, take up a work out routine, go sight seeing. Just do not sit at home. A high value man has things going on for him. He has friends that invite him out and he has a social life, a lifestyle that makes a woman want to be apart of. She will start wondering what you're doing with your free time and that is what you want to happen.

    Be a man of action. Live life.

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    Default Re: Best way to handle gf that is always working?

    Reading that novel of a post... answer my this, guys! IS this a good way to put my foot my foot down with out being a super-dick and sounding needy? Just telling her, unless we commit within a reasonable time-frame, I'm gonna assume it's fair game to make plans of my own, and we are not doing anything?

    Tell her that? You need to fucking do that, there's no need to tell her anything.

    Other than that, you should realize her 'work first'-attitude is not gonna change for you. If you can live with that, do so by all means, if not, perhaps it's time to move on.

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    Default Re: Best way to handle gf that is always working?

    You know the source of the problemen (her), you know the consicuenses of the problemen, (you getting sick of the situation) why are you lying to yourself? If you are lying to yourself, then you lie to her and your/her surroundings. Be honest to yourself what do you want?
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    Default Re: Best way to handle gf that is always working?

    Thanks for the feedback, guys. Mr. Assertive, I suggest re-reading the post. Perhaps I did not spell it out. I have plenty to do. I make a six figure salary and am a competitive kick boxer.

    That's the problem. Sorry if that was not clear, that my schedule is busy as well
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    Default Re: Best way to handle gf that is always working?

    I'm crazy? I asked for conjecture, but this is going a little far. Look up the word "conjecture" and get back with me.


    Also, I don't see how adding to my schedule will solve anything. That's the problem in case you didn't understand -- we both have busy schedules mine more so than her's. Just because I work from home doesn't mean I'm not busy. I'm actually clocking almost a 6 figures right now.

    How is learning a new hobby going to solve this? That would add to the problem. I'm thinking you might a little newbish to the game -- and life in general. Just saying, that's like asking to solve a budget and replying "spend more money on stupid stuff you don't need". Perhaps your reply was a little sarcastic humor? If so, I'm laughing. LOL

    Quote Originally Posted by Mr. Assertive View Post
    You're crazy man. Only a few months in and you guys are moving in together? DON'T DO IT.

    And you already sound needy. She works alot, you don't wait around like a sick puppy. Do something, preferably that will improve yourself in some way. Take up a hobby, take up a work out routine, go sight seeing. Just do not sit at home. A high value man has things going on for him. He has friends that invite him out and he has a social life, a lifestyle that makes a woman want to be apart of. She will start wondering what you're doing with your free time and that is what you want to happen.

    Be a man of action. Live life.

    Thanks everyone else for your advice. And to "Mr. Assertive for trying" lol
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