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    Default Turning a girl down to increase attraction?

    We get rejected, all of a sudden the girl's value rises in our eyes.

    What's the best way to turn a girl's offer of a date down to dhv? Keeping in mind the girl is guaranteed to come back later and ask again (no chance of losing her as you'll see her in a social context anyway).

    I'd imagine:
    -appearing to be busy that night doing something really fun with other people instead
    -instead of offering an alternative date, saying something along the lines of 'maybe a bit later in the week.' Showing that seeing her is not necessarily hugely important for her and leaving things up in the air

    Of course you don't want to come across as a dick who's just trying to hurt her.

    Keep in mind here the goal is to massively increase attraction. Yes she is already attracted, but you want it to get to the point where she convinces herself you're the only thing she wants and she can't stand the thought of going without seeing you.

    There are two things here: being scarce and making her wonder whether you're interested in her or not. So which is more powerful, or can they be used in combination?

    Appreciate it fellas,
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    Default Re: Turning a girl down to increase attraction?

    Definitely make her wonder is more powerful. Being scarce is very powerful, yes, but does it really matter if she is sure you are interested in her. I twill take a lot of scarcity by that point.
    "The world will never change much less become what you want it to be. The only thing that can change is you. Face your fears, grow stronger and become what you want to be."
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    Default Re: Turning a girl down to increase attraction?

    I have, after heavy make out sessions, told girls I didnt want to sleep with them that night ...... this makes them wonder what they did wrong and more eager to close the deal the next time you hang out together .... its very powerful stuff but you need a certain level of maturity to say NO when she is ready to go for it
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    Default Re: Turning a girl down to increase attraction?

    @drgnsfire12 he needs to be sated of pussy to say no
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    There is a certain amount of freedom when getting pussy doesn't control your every thought and action .... " I haven't "needed the money" since I took Archie's milk money in the third grade. Tell you the truth, I don't need pussy any more either... but I like it" - Frank Costello, The Departed
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    There is a certain amount of freedom when getting pussy doesn't control your every thought and action .... " I haven't "needed the money" since I took Archie's milk money in the third grade. Tell you the truth, I don't need pussy any more either... but I like it" - Frank Costello, The Departed
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    Default Re: Turning a girl down to increase attraction?

    What's the best way to turn a girl's offer of a date down to dhv? Keeping in mind the girl is guaranteed to come back later and ask again (no chance of losing her as you'll see her in a social context anyway).
    1. if you reject a girl, there is no certainty she will come back. either learn not to care if she comes back, or don't reject her completely.

    -appearing to be busy that night doing something really fun with other people instead
    2. instead of "appearing" to be busy, actually be genuinely busy. (any high value guy should lead an active life with little downtime)

    -instead of offering an alternative date, saying something along the lines of 'maybe a bit later in the week.' Showing that seeing her is not necessarily hugely important for her and leaving things up in the air
    3. offering an alternative is perfectly fine. it shows that you still want to see her, but the meeting will be on your terms at a time and place that is convenient for YOU.

    Of course you don't want to come across as a dick who's just trying to hurt her.
    4. you care way too much about the image you're trying to give off, and not enough about being the person you want to be, rather than being the person she wants you to be.

    Keep in mind here the goal is to massively increase attraction.
    5. here's a thought about increasing attraction. try improving yourself rather than improving your game. don't do it for the girls, do it because you strive to better your life in every way possible.

    being scarce and making her wonder whether you're interested in her or not. So which is more powerful, or can they be used in combination?
    6. make yourself scarce by being the best self you can be. make yourself scarce by being better educated than the guys she's used to, make yourself scarce by being honest with her, make yourself scarce by owning your every flaw, make yourself scarce by being brave and not afraid to go after what you want.

    when you truly are an alpha male you will be a rare commodity to many women.


    7. as far as interest is concerned, be genuine. no sense in hiding your interest. the key here is that you must also be genuinely unattached to any given outcome. when your only goal is to live a fun life, the outcome never matters as long as you had fun getting there. (and yes getting rejected can even be fun if you really didn't care about the outcome to begin with)

    8. being genuine is what you should strive for. genuinely become a fun person to be around, genuinely become unattached to the outcome and genuinely become a high value person. that's all you'll need to have plenty of people in your life.

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