Long time lurker, but finally signed up as I have a question now. Posted in general as the girlfriend subforum didn't seem right for this.
I was in a wonderful long distance relationship with my ex for just over 5 years. It was one of those high school sweet heart types, we had been best friends for 3+ years before the relationship. Strong relationship with a lot of balance and effort from both sides. She broke up with me 2 months ago to work abroad. When she told me it seemed her mind had already been made up and there was very little negotiation about us staying together. Hit me pretty hard, been having a hard time getting over her since.
Recently it was my birthday and I received a birthday card in the mail from my ex. The card was very generic and came across friendly, yet a bit dry, almost as if she didn't know what to say. Just the general "Happy Birthday, have a good day. I'm proud of you etc". Obviously very different from her previous lovey wall of text cards when we were together. Later on the day she sent me a text saying "Hey <name that only she calls me>, Happy Birthday!!! Hope you have a great day. How have you been? Lots of love from <her current city>. Sarah xxxxx" (not her real name).
How do I respond? We are currently in no contact and have been since we split. I'm still in love with her but there is no logical reason for us to be together as she does not plan on returning to where I live (ever) and I cannot relocate due to a work contract. I want to remain in no contact because at the moment it's best for my healing process, but at the same time I don't want to be rude by not saying thanks. Is it rude for me to not reply? Does it make me look bitter? but at the same time, if I reply, does that make me look afc?
What do you guys think?