Hopefully this is in the right forum, just wanted a bit of advice. I was seeing someone for a few months and I thought we had built a lot of attraction and comfort and she was giving me signs that she wanted something serious but then we suddenly stopped talking. Apparently it was because she was being stalked by her ex and she didn’t feel like she could see anyone while she was dealing with that. Anyway I told her we should keep seeing each other and she shouldn’t let that ruin things for her and there's been no contact since that message. This was a couple of months ago, so I’ve tried moving on and going NC but always expected she would eventually get back in contact with me. Obviously NC backfired which was unexpected because apart from how suddenly we stopped talking I didn't see any obvious IOD's. Anyway I haven't heard from her and last week I was told she's added a guy on facebook and has been flirting with him lots. Apparently he’s a lot better looking than me and follows a few local PUAs and I get the impression they've already had a ONS. However I saw one example where he was trying to escalate with a bit of sexual innuendo and she teased him with a uninterested response and then he negged her. So he obviously knows a bit and might be good.
So now I’m wondering how I should reinitiate contact and attempt to rebuild attraction before anything develops between them? Is there anything like a PUA destroyer technique I could use? How do you reinitiate after NC has backfired and someone new is on the scene?
Was thinking of using a message like "Hey, (this) reminded me of you...How are you?" but I think that one is a bit worn out and most women would see through a it now. Any ideas?