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    So today I've been talking to my friend and we got on the topic why one of his friends isn't a big fan of me, and he said that the reason he doesn't like me is because when we go out with new people or at a party I tend to be too overtly friendly and treat people as if I knew them for a long time. Do you think that's a real issue or do you think he's just lacking confidence in the field of seeing new people and being confident?

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    Default Re: too friendly?

    What do you think? As you gain success you are going to run into people who don't have it and hate you for it for no reason. His opinion absolutely does not matter. The only opinion that matters is YOURS. At the end of the day you want to please yourself, because no one will.

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    yeah I agree, it's best to just do me and let the haters hate, it's just funny how I'm being confident and social and he kind of sits there quietly barely saying a word and I'm the one who's in the wrong in his opinion haha, the thing is that treating people as if you've known them for a while is a good thing because you can make it more comfortable for them to interact with you rather than asking awkwardly about the weather

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    Default Re: too friendly?

    People in your surroundings love you for who you are in there reality and they will try to keep you that way. Also people in general don't like to see a person becoming better than there own ego in there reality.

    People will try everything to keep you the same in there reality they will even stop you from progressing further here by criticizing your new behavior because in there world you should not act in that way.

    Elliot Hulse talks about this.

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    Default Re: too friendly?

    Quote Originally Posted by Gotcha View Post
    People in your surroundings love you for who you are in there reality and they will try to keep you that way. Also people in general don't like to see a person becoming better than there own ego in there reality.

    People will try everything to keep you the same in there reality they will even stop you from progressing further here by criticizing your new behavior because in there world you should not act in that way.

    Elliot Hulse talks about this.

    Elliot is grating IMO but that's a good video.

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    Default Re: too friendly?

    yeah I know his videos, I've watched this one about 6 months ago, really inspired me to notice how my behavior makes other treat me differently, and since then I've been kind of very aware of how my actions have a positive/negative outcome in the area of how other people deal with me whether is respect or disrespect. That's the point that I don't really see treating new people as if you've known them for a while to be a bad thing, it shows confidence, it shows that you are friendly and comfortable being around them where as being shy and timid and talking awkwardly is the exact opposite of that. If I talked to a man or a female and I'd notice that she/he's very shy or is too overwhelmed by my high energy, I'd obviously drop it down and just keep my energy level about the same as theirs. But this is not the case, I interact with people with confidence and playfulness only if I can sense that they are cool with it, when this is not the case I act differently, and this guy hasn't seen me in that other case - when someone had a problem with my confidence amongst new people, he tends to be very friendly and confident (has even more high energy) only when around the people he knows, when it comes to meeting new people - a completely different person. So that's why I'm asking is he just jealous of the fact that he lacks confidence in the area of interacting with new people or are there really some people out there who actually believe that you should be more timid amongst new people (which is the exact opposite of what I believe)


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