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    Default Getting the girl from work

    Hey guys, so I'm working in the outdoors department at a retailer for the summer and there's this girl at work who I got to talk to/hang out with on the floor at work for a little while. Our first actual conversation she ended up dropping what she was doing to come talk to me while I was putting stuff on the shelves and she started opening my boxes for me as if to justify her standing there in the isle with me. It seemed like we were connecting pretty well, so when I told her I rock-climb and she showed interest in trying it, I asked her to come with me sometime. Next time I saw her there, I got her number pretty much immediately.

    We texted briefly after that, and then she had a couple overnight shifts the days before we met up, and the last one she messaged me about it pretty much as soon as she got off at 6am which I thought meant she had been thinking about the "date." (I don't think it was specifically set as a date as I didn't describe it that way in context).

    When I picked her up to go to the gym, she dressed up as much as possible minus the athletic outfit I told her she should wear. By this I mean: painted nails, purse, and lots of perfume which is obviously overkill for what we were doing. IMO, the gym went well since I built up so that I could play the tease/cocky side of my personality which she thought was funny. She also opted to just watch me climb a decent amount and later commented on how outgoing I was at the gym and with the other people there as I am a pretty good climber which puts me in a position to teach her and help others. We talked the entire ride back to her place, and when dropping her off, there was a moment of silence and eye contact before she got out, but her body was semi-turned towards the door so I wasn't sure what the indication was.... It was definitely somewhat awkward though.

    I know it's long but I wanted to give as much detail to get opinions from you guys as I would like to go forward with this but I feel like I am going to end up choking on "the move" since I've ended up opting to play it safe a lot in the past. Also, I feel as if the odds are stacked against me since I'm just under 20 but a college junior, and she's 22 and graduated already, plus I'm scared if things go wrong, seeing her at work will get WEIRD.

    Any advice on what to do guys or things I did right/wrong? I will give more details if you need. We have plans to climb again in two days, but I'm not sure if I should switch it up to do something else.

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    Default Re: Getting the girl from work

    The rock-climbing thing is a good hook and a great way to get her out BUT you need to transition to grabbing coffee, a slice of pizza, or ice cream so you don't become a one trick pony
    "The purpose of our lives is to be happy" - his Holiness the Dalai Llama of Tibet

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    Default Re: Getting the girl from work

    Yes, that makes complete sense. She wanted to go again so we are headed out tomorrow again, but afterwards I will choose something new to do. Now if there is another moment while dropping her off with conflicting signals like last time, should I just go for it, or would that be a bad move?

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    Default Re: Getting the girl from work

    i think you shouldnt wait until you drop her off before making the move, do it while you in the gym or walking back to the car, or even better invite yourself inside when you dropping her off, but you need to do something, preferable when you are comfortable enough being around her to eliminate the awklwardness, AND AS FOR GOING FOR THE KILL, ALWAYS REMEMBER THAT A GIRL WILL ALWAYS FORGIVE YOU FOR BEING A GUY AND TRYING TO KISS HER AND STUFF BUT SHE WILL NEVER FORGIVE YOU BEING A PUSSY

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    Default Re: Getting the girl from work

    Making a move is something you can't really plan out, you really need to wait until you've built enough attraction and comfort if you don't want it to be awkward and clumsy ..... the funny thing is you'll know when that happens and when the time is right to make a move ...... as far as dropping her off, and this is if you haven't kissed or made out on the date, lean into her for a kiss, if she hesitates tell her "Hey give me a kiss .... I'm not going to bite this time" ..... the key is no matter what happens ( she kisses you, she doesn't kiss you, she gets goofy, it gets awkward) do not be phased by it because after all you are a well put together guy with experience and things like that don't bother you ...... we have to always remember to never let them see us sweat ...... GL, I think you are doing well and the rock climbing was a great hook in, build on that momentum and don't rush things ...... it will all happen soon enough
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    Default Re: Getting the girl from work

    Good post. You may have already got the answers you're looking for, I would just like to comment on a couple things.

    One: any second meeting whether the same day, a later date, or even during the initial PU(Hense the Seven Minute Date routine) is considered a date.


    Two: it seemed to me that everything was pretty solid up until the awkwardness while dropping her off. As far as her body language(partially leaning towards the door) it could possibly be interpreted many different ways. But you also said you had good conversation the entire drive to her place, so i'm assuming that particular point was a high moment. I would assume she didn't want to leave your company, or that's at least what I would be thinking. The kiss close Drgnsfire12 mentioned sounds legit(definitely added to the script, thanks Drgnsfire). Here is another vary simple one that may work also, it's personally one of my favorite ways to kiss close because you literally have to say nothing. It's NEVER failed me yet.


    Kiss close: After re-implicating some attraction, comfort, kino ect. Anytime during the date wait for a high moment, slowly let the conversation die and make direct eye contact with her for 3 seconds. If she doesn't break the eye contact or the seemingly random silence for those three seconds...PULL THE FUCKING TRIGGER!. If she does you know you have a bit more attraction and comfort to build.


    P..S Be sure to go in right as your about to count three. The first couple times I used it I went right after counting three and they would say "Whhaat?" staring to feel awkward. It worked both times anyways though I knew they wanted to kiss me I was just testing it then, but it's crazy how a millisecond can change the reaction.

    Good Luck!

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    Default Re: Getting the girl from work

    Thanks for all of the advice guys! I's all really helpful and I'll try to follow it here in a bit. I have built a bit of kino while there the first time btw. Also, I texted her about something that happened at work late last night which was untimely and made it a dumb move in my opinion, but she kind of bailed me out of it and put me back on top so-to-speak so I think that's a good sign as well.

    She got caught up at work and forgot about our date today so we're an hour late now, so that should put me in a good standing as she feels she "owes" me. I'll follow up later tonight with how it went. Hopefully I'll sack up and everything will be good.

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    Default Re: Getting the girl from work

    I'm going to give you the best advice...

    dont date co-workers. I've been there, and it's a path you don't want to get involved in. You may not like that, but it's what you need to hear.

    There's always another girl, wait until your not co-workers anymore to try to date her.

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    Default Re: Getting the girl from work

    Kyl3: So I actually found out tonight that she will be moving at the end of July anyways so we won't be co-workers anymore. Also, I was likely not looking to date her but who knows.

    So now, update time:

    The whole thing went great tonight. There were a few slow points in conversation, but I tried to keep it going or focus both of us on climbing to fill it up, and when I couldn't, she usually broke the silence and started things off again. The entire time we were there I was looking for the body language and we were making a fairly substantial amount of eye contact but there was no way a move could be made while there. Also, some of our movements and other body language were synched up without me trying to do it.

    After the gym, we got back to her apartment and she had talked about being hungry and I about food before in conversation, so she actually made the suggestion to go out to dinner. Of course, I said yes and we talked A LOT at the restaurant. By a lot, I mean it took us a while just to order food because of it. Still, body language synched, lots of leaning in and eye contact. My food kind of fubared me though because for whatever reason I felt way off after eating it, like qweazy (however you spell it). We get back to her place yet again and were about to split but stood there in the parking lot for another while talking. I lined up inuendo in my comments perfectly and at one point I started going in for it, but obviously it was the wrong time or something. Maybe she didn't notice since she kept fidgeting with a yogurt cup she had had earlier. That killed the confidence. I gear up a second time. Back out. Then she mentions how she would invite me up but her place is a mess since she has started getting ready to move. I think that was a que for me to push for it but I don't. Finally, she mentions a possible get-together on Saturday, so who knows. She texted me not long ago that she had a great time tonight. I don't know what's wrong with me right now, but it sucks.

    All in all, the pilot forgot to put down the landing gear coming in for the landing. I messed up, and I don't know if the option will be open next time or not.

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    Default Re: Getting the girl from work

    As a guy who has a private pilots license I will tell you that landing with your gear still up is a big no no ...... flying is something that you can't learn through trail and error but PUA is and making mistakes is part of the game , the good thing is that you recognize those mistakes and are trying to fix them ........ two points first if I had a good date I will always send the classic text "you really impressed me tonight, and I don't get impressed very easily, keep up the good work" and second, if she said her place was to messy, couldn't you have invited her back to your place ???
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