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    derpaderp is offline PUA in Training
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    Default Not Replying Because of HER?

    Hello Guys! I have a quick Situation I need Advice on

    I already Posted this Before but here goes

    i've Been talking to this girl i met out of town (7 hours away)
    And we've been talking for a year now, im going out of town eventually so ill end up meeting her.
    The thing is a year ago i had a huge crush on her.
    She knew, was rejected ETC.
    anyway afterwards i learned PUA and its been a few weeks, shes been in touch with me
    complimenting me, asking me how i would treat my girlfriend, telling me how mature ive become,
    that i am worth a good Companion!
    now a girl who had a crush on ME shows up, talks to her and says im a "poor" guy who wanted to marry her.
    she said "i know you like me"

    I played hard to get

    "Im not that easy!"
    "play hard to get all you want"

    eventually she ended with "Ok fine lets end this, you dont like me, you are over Me"

    so its been about 5 days now and she has Not Responded to any of my Texts..
    Ive been Pinging her with

    "You wont believe what happened today"

    "I got fired! 6 am" - inside joke

    "Popcorn + movie = Life (: "

    so now i have no idea what to do... maybe she was Interested and I denied my likeness towards her? upset?
    i do want to get a response back and Responde BACK to fix this, ive already been with different girls before her, i came out of a relationship 3 months ago (Already knew PUA)
    Im not good At text Game or Online Game, i AM interested in this girl considering i already knew her etc.

    So what do i do? My best thinking is to skip a day or two and Ping again untill she responds.

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    Default Re: Not Replying Because of HER?

    It's hard for me to follow exactly what's going on here because of the writing you used. This is what I can gather, a girl who was into you and you were seeing stopped becoming responsive. She liked you, you played hard to get. In the future, don't disqualify women who are into you like that. What you did was pretend to not like her and she got upset. Why do that if you DO like her?

    There's no point in showing disinterest in a girl who is clearly into you. That will only backfire. This is how I would have responded
    Her: "You're a poor guy who wants to marry me"
    Me: "Haha! (big smile) You're right! I am a poor guy. I'm surprised you talk to me. What's wrong with you?!"
    Her: I know you like me
    Me: Yea I do. You like me too. What else is new?! (Big smile).

    That's it. She was testing you to see if you had as much interest in her as she has in you. You were too cool for school and she said screw it. The best thing you can do is wait for awhile and try to contact her later.

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    Default Re: Not Replying Because of HER?

    Quote Originally Posted by DirectIsBest View Post
    It's hard for me to follow exactly what's going on here because of the writing you used. This is what I can gather, a girl who was into you and you were seeing stopped becoming responsive. She liked you, you played hard to get. In the future, don't disqualify women who are into you like that. What you did was pretend to not like her and she got upset. Why do that if you DO like her?

    There's no point in showing disinterest in a girl who is clearly into you. That will only backfire. This is how I would have responded
    Her: "You're a poor guy who wants to marry me"
    Me: "Haha! (big smile) You're right! I am a poor guy. I'm surprised you talk to me. What's wrong with you?!"
    Her: I know you like me
    Me: Yea I do. You like me too. What else is new?! (Big smile).

    That's it. She was testing you to see if you had as much interest in her as she has in you. You were too cool for school and she said screw it. The best thing you can do is wait for awhile and try to contact her later.
    Yeah, You're right.
    Thank you for the post, Really Helped me For the future.
    she Got Responsive again, Doesn't seem to be in a happy-ish mood.
    so i thought about doing a DHV, one like mystery does
    example "so i saw this girl...who looked really nice, she was dressed classy and had an elegegant feel about her .....(rest of the story) so i thought to myself...why did i even try to talk to her? and i realized for some reason, you're like a magnet, that you keep taking my attention away and i keep looking back at you, in conclusion you're a witch doing something to my brain. Maybe thats why im so interested and curious about you"

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    Default Re: Not Replying Because of HER?

    Hm,

    what is your goal with this girl? You said you had a crush then git rejected and then she is into you and you play hard to get. Now she has finally become responsive again but seems to be in an "unhappy-ish mood" as you put it. Unless you know what you want, you are shooting darts in the dark.

    The other thing I see is that you are playing games with her. That speaks to me of at least some lack on the inner game front. My advice is: Own your shit and communicate what you want. Be authentic. Be genuinely curious.

    The best way I have found to approach a situation like this is to a) ask what happened after your last messages and how she understood them (She feels seen and you get feedback on how your game is received). Ask her what is up with her mood. What happened over the days that she didn't respond. (I am not saying be a wuss and by into everything she says. I am saying be curious. We all want to feel seen and received. You are still dealing with a human being who has just as much crap going on as you have, even though said human being has a pussy.)

    And then ask yourself: Did I fuck it up somewhere? (Not the formula but the connection with her) If you did, acknowledge it to yourself and to her. Even saying something like "Hey, I fucked it up. I was nervous and didn't want it to show. So I played hard to get because I wanted to see if you would be interested before I put myself out there." That is where owning your shit comes in.

    To me it is like this: internal work first, external work second - fix your inner game before trying to fix the outer game.

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    Default Re: Not Replying Because of HER?

    When we talk again ill make sure to talk about it (:
    thank you for the advice

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    Default Re: Not Replying Because of HER?

    update:
    Very Unresponsive. I used some funny openers that either will make her curious or smile.
    all i got was "?"
    nothing afterwards.
    since that day she has been very unresponsive. so i assume ill just have to say
    "we need to talk, i have something important to tell you"
    Or something like that, im not sure, im not gonna text for a few days.
    any advice would help


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