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    Crunchyman is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Unhappy What do i need to do to become a PUA

    Im tired of reading material and i put myself out there a lot. I am obviously afraid of rejection but every now and then i start a conversation with a sexy stranger, i cant do it when my friends are watching because im afraid they will make fun of me which is stupid i know.

    But seriously, i feel like i have read the basic material but everytime i am in front of the girl i just go with the flow and when its time to kino im just scared of it.

    I dont know what it takes to become a pua but i dont know how to do it, i really want to but i cant. Apparently its a whole journey of rejection and humiliation etc.

    I would really appreciate if any of you PUA's could reply to this thread talking about your personal journey, it would really put me in the right mindset.

    PS: i have not pulled once despite my attempts. it has been more than 3 months that i have been into this PUA thing.

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    FromBoyToMan is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: What do i need to do to become a PUA

    Everyone has trouble talking to a random stranger.
    even experts.

    they wont make fun of you because you'll be the only one to get that number and bang the girl Compared to them.

    Yes, you will get Rejected, Yes some girls will make fun of you.

    Rejection is good, you will learn what you did wrong and try again and again... Eventually you'll nail it down.

    I had mass social anxiety, I went outside and talked to 3 Different girls, 2 of them were REALLY bitchy to me, but i ignored it, i talked to another girl, we talked for a few minutes, we had eye contacts, she was smiling, laughing, got her number and we became good friends.
    After that i already met a more girls and i felt attractive and didn't feel as scared.
    Even though Im still not a full on expert and theres more i need to learn, i was in situations i cant get out of, even now.
    but there are situations that are perfect for me.
    eventually i wish to make ANY situation perfect. but it takes time and effort!

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    Dizzie is offline PUA in Training
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    Default Re: What do i need to do to become a PUA

    You need time, a strong overwhelming desire to change/evolve and willingness to see your transformation through to the end. To be honest with you, three months is just baby food in the grand scheme of things. The important part is that you've made the choice for self improvement and have started taking steps in the right direction to achieve your goals.

    I struggled all my adolescent years with women as I was very awkward with members of the opposite sex. I had a huge fear of rejection which held me back from taking chances with women. I started studying PUA material when I was 17, that was 10 years ago. I didn't have my first kiss until a year after. I read 'The Game' when I started college and never looked back. By age 20, I started getting consistent dates and lays. I was constantly learning new ideas and applying them in the real world. I studied everything from David Deangelo to RSD to Love Systems and even attended a bootcamp. I would go out 3-4 times a week and would approach 5-10 girls a night on average. Once I graduated university, I realized the limitations from living in a small city when pertaining to pick-up so I moved to the nearest Metropolis.

    The best decision I ever made was to start finding like minded people who were also on the path to self improvement. Finding wingmen helped push me and accelerated my self progression. I highly suggest that you start networking with other aspiring PUAs online from your area and find a wingman. Until you find a wingman, I would start going out alone or doing your approaches away from your friends. At least until you can handle rejection better and your inner game is stronger. Positive mentality is key for success here and it's counter productive if your friends are going to introduce negativity/fear while you're learning this stuff.

    Goal setting is a huge part to this whole thing as well. I've seen a lot of guys come and go mainly because they set UNREALISTIC expectations on themselves. They got discouraged and set themselves up for failure. If you haven't had a kiss in months, your goal shouldn't be to have a threesome this weekend. Your progression needs to be more measurable. If you're afraid to approach girls, your goal should be to do 5 approaches. Once you hit that, increase that amount to 10. If you can only talk to a set of girls for two minutes before you run out of things to say, set a goal that night for 5 minutes. If you keep setting micro step goals, you'll be able to get a better idea on where your progression is heading. If you hit a road block, consult the forums or read some new material and get back out there.

    Inner game is important and you should constantly be seeking to improve it. Your inner game will also align with experience and success. You can try to trick your mind all you want, your mind will only fully believe you're Don Jon when you have the life experiences to match that behaviour. How do you get there? By practicing in the real world. Often!

    Here are a few study recommendations that helped me get to where I am:


    The Game - Neil Straus
    Magic Bullets - LoveSystems
    Transformations and The Jeffy Show DVD series - Real Social Dynamics

    Hope this helps! Best of luck!

    -Dizzie


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