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Thread: Silent treatment after hookup. Ouch.

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    Default Silent treatment after hookup. Ouch.

    Disclosure. I am good looking, and solid in bed. I have almost zero game, however. Anyways, I met this girl. She is a ten, gets loads of attention from everyone at work.

    We have a few dates and there is LOADS of interest from her. She seems to really like me. Third date, I try to line up a game day thing which she seems amenable to. I suggest we go out, she gives a bullshit reason for wanting to watch it at home and declines. Looked like a suggestion that we watch it in private. Works with me, she takes the offer to come to my place. I get slightly tipsy, she has three sips of beer. Shit goes down. She is obviously conflicted, mentioning how we are going too far, but at the same time all over me. Pushing me away and saying how I am making her too... excited, ect. We do amazing things for a few solid hours. As I walk her out she clearly looks a bit conflicted.

    I text her that night, probably poorly by calling her "trouble," no reply. So I wait a day or two until I see her at work, we talk briefly, nothing special, but she does seem slightly less friendly but it is hardly noticeable. She leaves before I get a chance to really talk to her, so I try texting her to line up a fourth date.

    I fucked up hardcore during the exchange and now I am getting the silent treatment from her in person. Ran into her for the first time in person since the messages last night, I could tell she was upset when she walked in but I had to walk into the office so I confronted her, looked her in the eye, said "Hey (girl's name)!" and then talked to my boss about what I needed to. The rest of the time my boss was next to her but she buried her head behind the computer and would not make eye contact. After my shift I walked up in front of her (which is behind a window) and attempted once more at eye contact, nothing, so I smiled shrugged and went home.

    She is clearly passive aggressive and this will go nowhere without confrontation, but how to do it without submitting to this obvious power play? She pulled the "don't care anymore" card a few times in the texts, but she obviously does care given the length of the texts and how uncool she played the silent treatment today (she was not nonchalant about it) Texting her now makes me a little bitch and I have lost all control before I ever had any.

    Could anyone take a look at the text exchange that happened and tell me if this is even salvageable? If not, how do I play it cool as I run into her at work in the future?

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    Default Re: Silent treatment after hookup. Ouch.

    So did you fuck her?! If you didn't you should have. Otherwise you should ignore the bullshit drama she is trying to create. The best thing for you is to be friendly and smile at her whenever you see her. Ignore the drama and think her bullshit is super funny. This way you'll have a shit eating grin every time you look at her and that will bring up positive feelings in her mind. Don't give a f$ck!

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    Default Re: Silent treatment after hookup. Ouch.

    You're playing the victim.
    Stop.

    She's just having buyer's remorse & it's because the balance of attraction & comfort are off.

    Quit being reactive & affected.

    She could also just be testing you to see if you're man enough to tack charge & lead the potential relationship, or how you handle hours of when things don't work out as originally planned.

    Take a step back & reinitiate from a fresh perspective.


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    Default Re: Silent treatment after hookup. Ouch.

    That is exactly what I did when I couldn't get eye contact from her. I just grinned at her. I don't think I played the victim but I was definitely sweating the whole situation really bad.

    Whatever was going on it resolved itself because she showed up at my door that night, and, well... very little was discussed and very little sleep was had.

    Guess I'm just going with the flow.

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    Default Re: Silent treatment after hookup. Ouch.

    if u two work together maybe she doesnt want it super serious where that itd "show" at work.

    Could be? I know thats always a concern on my mind how some dames would act if i did something with them then had to see them at work.....where as howd they play it out.


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