I (used to) think about myself as a natural. Meaning this: I feel most comfortable getting physically near a girl/woman, I have really good eye contact and I love creating that sexual tensionÖ suppose itís something I developed since I was a child. I always felt I can connect physically/emotionally very easy to a woman, I like dancing a lot and thatís one of the ways I do it, butÖ
My problem is that apart from the low-key, non-verbal communication, I seem to lack something. I canít do this connection over a conversation, if I talk to a woman I seem not to be able to connect my low-key part, my feelings, into it. It seems to quickly become a big turn-off for her and I feel like a fool, very frustrated. I feel like I just missed some detail and I turned her off. If I dance with her it is so easy, I just know how to touch, how to move, it always seemed so easy to meÖ
I am an artist, Iíve been brought up in a very liberal environment, although I was always a bit of an introvert, not necessarily shy. In highschool, although I was a goofy looking geek, I donít know how, but I managed to attract the most beautiful and desired girls in the schoolÖ I was a complete dork but they were drawn to me and were the ones making the first move. I figured it must have been my confident eye contact and the fact that I was able to express my emotions very strong through anything else but words i.e. body language, dancing etc.
So I donít really know what to do. It seems very frustrating. Like I can kiss-close a girl on the dancing ring without even talking to her, and if I meet a girl, most of the time I give a powerful first-impression but to me it seems that me trying to make conversation ruins everything. Of course it's not a disaster and a complete turn-off every time but I feel like it's a blunder, I'd like to be in control and realize what I do wrong.
Itís really frustrating. What can/should I do?