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    Hey, something's been on my mind for quite a while, before I started my journey as a PUA and before I devoted my life to self development in all aspects of my life, I used to be kind of an asshole. I didn't like myself very much, was very emotional when reacting to negative outcomes, my behavior sometimes was sometimes self-destructive, I didn't hate myself but, I'm sure glad to look back and think how glad I am to not be the same person I was a year ago. My friends which I haven't interacted with for a while keep telling me how I've changed, so I just state out the obvious and say - I know. So before I get even more off-topic, I've started to notice that the more narcissistic my mindset becomes the less of an asshole I am, far from being a suck-up nice guy, I like to challenge people, I definitely set boundaries for every single person I interact with, always assume A&A (Attraction & Authority), stepped out a mile out of my comfort zone, I'm pretty immune to negative outcomes, I basically don't give a sh.. about what people think about me. I'm the kind of person who's very giving, comforting and who takes pity upon those who need it, or the ones I offend with my sometimes overwhelming arrogance/confidence. Again, don't confuse me with your typical AFC nice guy ass licking approval seeking schmuck. But here's my sticking point - I often times find my self not gaming certain girls, just because they seem genuinely nice and I don't want to break there hearts even though I can tell that they're very much into me. After reading the book "Assholes finish first" by Tucker Max, I envied not only his legendary confidence but also his lack for kindness towards other human beings, I tried to give 0 f.... about the well-being of others, didn't suit me and would just often times leave me with regret. So my question for you, what do you recommend me to do in-order to care less about others, at least to the point where I wouldn't feel resistance gaming girls who I know like me, but I know I'll never like them (at least for more than their body), thanks in advance,

    -Alergy.

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    Default Re: not a nice guy nor an asshole?

    Whoa! Not giving a sh!t and purposely hurting others is two very different things. You should be selfish, because only you can take care of yourself. However; Stringing along women and going into a relationship knowing you will hurt them in not ok.

    There's a very easy solution to this. If you know ahead of time that you will dump them, even before you start anything, then don't mess around with them. I used to do this all the time years ago and it just wasn't right. You should always give a woman an honest chance, and if it doesn't work out it doesn't work out.

    So to answer your question, don't game girls you don't see yourself being with. Besides being hurtful to them, it's a waste of time for you. Only game girls you want. That way every girl you're with will be a girl you want.

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    yeah I thought about that but it really makes it harder for me to perfect my skills as a PUA knowing that I'm holding myself back for the sake of others, this is a huge dilemma for me right now and I don't know whether I should laugh or cry haha

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    You can always be truthful with them. You can sleep with them and tell them you only want FWB. The only problem with this is allot of women will agree with you, then still get hurt. I've only been able to have one FWB that actually worked out even when I was honest with them. They always get attached and "believe" they can win you over.

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    ha, awesome, you're being honest with them and they have no right to blame you if they get attached, I'm definitely bringing this tactic to the field, thanks

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    Default Re: not a nice guy nor an asshole?

    Quote Originally Posted by DirectIsBest View Post
    You can always be truthful with them. You can sleep with them and tell them you only want FWB. The only problem with this is allot of women will agree with you, then still get hurt. I've only been able to have one FWB that actually worked out even when I was honest with them. They always get attached and "believe" they can win you over.
    Agree 100% with this.

    You should also realise that women are wired differently than men. After sex, a women's brain releases oxytocin - a bonding chemical which helps her brain get ready for a relationship. Naturally, all manner of thoughts and behaviours are stimulated thereafter. So after the FIRST sexual encounter, the woman will want a relationship. So don't be an arsehole...
    You will never do ANYTHING in this world without COURAGE. - Aristotle

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    Default Re: not a nice guy nor an asshole?

    After reading the book "Assholes finish first" by Tucker Max, I envied not only his legendary confidence but also his lack for kindness towards other human beings, I tried to give 0 f.... about the well-being of others, didn't suit me and would just often times leave me with regret. So my question for you, what do you recommend me to do in-order to care less about others, at least to the point where I wouldn't feel resistance gaming girls who I know like me, but I know I'll never like them (at least for more than their body), thanks in advance,
    ah, I too like reading tucker max's stories. if you take the time to read all 4 of his books (I hope they serve beer in hell, assholes finish first, hilarity ensues, and sloppy seconds the tucker max leftovers) you will see his character development. another thing you probably didn't notice is that he's actually quite good to people who actually have something to offer him.(besides their wet hole) also realize that he gives value to peoples lives (by making them laugh in most cases) he ignores/insults people who don't give value back. but with fun cool girls who give him value he is much more kind.

    another thing that might be less obvious about tucker max is that he is an extremely high value guy. not just by how he acts around women, but because he leads a high value life. who else can say they got a law degree from duke law school and wrote half a dozen successful novels? not to mention that tucker is tall relatively good looking, and has a genius level IQ.

    all the hookups he had where because he was the most valuable guy available to these girls at the moment.

    bottom line, if you do awesome stuff with your life, the ladies take notice.


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