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    irishsauce is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Facebook, date W/ 10, need advice.

    Hi, I've been reading the forums long time ago, never actually posted. I need your help. What would you do ?


    To keep things short, I started talking to this girl on facebook(very solid 9-10) wich his the Ex of one of my friends (they dated 1 1/2 years ago). We saw eachother one time and talked 5min at a party 3 years ago.


    Here's the conversation (was in french but I translated).


    I knew I saw this little face somewhere !
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pug7h4l2bP4&t=2m48s
    10/15, 10:30am
    Girl Hahahaha

    Oh boy


    10/15, 10:49am
    Me Aren't you proud ?


    10/15, 10:49am
    Girl Of course I am !


    10/15, 10:51am
    Me You should totally put this black lip stick on more often. I think it's a winner


    10/15, 10:51am
    Girl Hahahaha
    I think I'll pass :P
    You saw the shows on tv ?


    10/15, 10:59am
    Me Yup, saw that by pure coincidence at some friend's house. Girls were listening to it and I recognized you.


    10/15, 11:07am
    Girl Ohhh

    You liked it ?


    10/15, 12:03pm
    Me Ya it was really nice ! But it could have been bad and I would've still liked it since I got the dancing skillz of a marionette made by a 3 year old. "(that joke sounded better in french)"


    10/15, 12:14pm
    Girl Haha

    thanks


    10/15, 12:21pm
    Me I seriously didn't believe it was you on tv.


    10/15, 12:22pm
    Girl Ahah I'm horrible on this tv shot.


    10/15, 12:25pm
    Me You should really think about wearing that black lipstick more often.


    10/15, 12:32pm
    Girl lolll


    so the guy leaves before I say hello to him :P


    10/15, 12:40pm
    Girl Tell me you don't find it cute for real


    10/15, 12:41pm
    Me ahahah
    When we'll go on a date someday I'll make sure you wear that


    10/15, 12:43pm
    Girl Lolll
    People are going to recognize me, we'll be surrounded by fans :P lol not


    10/15, 12:45pm
    Me loll. Don't forget the cap. I won't recognize you if you do.


    10/15, 12:47pm
    Girl Lollll
    If I wear the cap also, people are really going to ask autographs. I prefer to stay incognito... ahah


    10/15, 12:51pm
    Me Yeah but we'll get the best seat in the bar with free drinks. This is a no brainer.


    10/15, 12:52pm
    Girl Lol yea yea




    10/15, 12:55pm


    10/15, 2:18pm
    Me I have an idea.


    10/15, 2:19pm
    Girl What


    10/15, 2:21pm
    Me Forget it. It's a bad idea.


    So how much time do you practice dance per week ?


    10/15, 2:23pm
    Girl Depending on contracts and shows but I'd say 10 hours per week min.


    Tell me what was your idea ?


    10/15, 2:40pm
    Me I told you it was not a good one


    10/15, 2:43pm
    Girl Yea but I'm kind of a curious girl. So tell me


    10/15, 2:51pm
    Me You never give up do you


    10/15, 2:52pm
    Girl Nop


    10/15, 2:55pm
    Me I think it would be nice for us to go take a drink next week and get the vip table since you're famous.


    10/15, 2:55pm
    Girl ahahahah we won't get free drinks. I'll wear a hoodie.


    10/15, 2:59pm
    Me this week I'm very busy but next week would be a possibility.


    10/15, 3:03pm
    Girl If you don't have any thoughts in your mind this yes. I think it'd be weird since I dated Yoan.


    10/15, 3:15pm
    Me I know one thing. Past is past for a reason. I hang out w/ ppl to have fun and if you won't because of your history, then it's best if we don't go.


    10/15, 3:17pm
    Girl lol if it's just for fun yeah I'm down like I said.


    10/15, 3:19pm
    Me I'm in town next tuesday but I'm busy. So wednesday or thursday ?


    So we booked a date. Two days later (2 days before date) she comes down with this :




    4:24am
    Girl
    Sincerely I don't think it's a good idea. I mean I have nothing against doing something with you but for me it'd be nothing but friendship. Honeslty I haven't forgotten about Yoan yet and I don't feel comfortable to go on a date with you if you have thoughts behind your head since your one of his friends. I don't say that to be mean

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    Default Re: Facebook, date W/ 10, need advice.

    you're mistake was that you made your intentions seem very straight-forward, what I would have done is just invited her to go somewhere where I was already going to go, with a bunch of friends so there's no pressure for her. But I guess that's just me. You haven't seen her in quite a while and she's already trying to put you in the little box called LJBF(let's just be friends) don't get too upset about this, don't show her that you don't like the fact that she doesn't want to go on a date with you. Again a date, meeting just to have fun is a completely different thing (at least that's what she thinks). One of my main mistakes when I was still an AFC was asking girls out on a date, but what I soon realized that I'd act completely the same if we'd hang out casually or if it was a date. So my advice for you - run your game when you meet, don't mention or even question why she doesn't want to give the date a try, false disqualify yourself if you must, work under the radar, pay much attention on attraction building, kino escalate (hugs, palm-reading, high fives) and of course - actually have fun, don't put her on the pedestal, she might look like an angel, but her character might leave you hiding behind the bushes. Don't focus on "winning" her over, first find out if she actually has something to offer you other than her beauty, and if she does - proceed with your game plan. Done.

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    irishsauce is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Facebook, date W/ 10, need advice.

    Thank you very much for your quick answer. I think you're right. I will try what you suggested.


    I had to postpone the date since I caught the flu today. What do you suggest as a 'casual' meetup ?

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    Default Re: Facebook, date W/ 10, need advice.

    concert, party, museum, shopping, amusement park, anything of that order (making sure there's a lot of people their and the attention isn't necessarily focused on her), avoid going out for coffee, or going out for dinner.. puts a lot of pressure on her, these were just some examples, but I think you get the point, try picking/thinking of something that you'd actually would want to do.

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    Default Re: Facebook, date W/ 10, need advice.

    Irishsauce, I think its too late. Your already out. She knows your intentions, even if you try to " just be friends". She told you that she dated your friend already twice, and she's given you a pre date flake.

    I highly doubt that she'll even show up to the " friendly date" to just be friends. Your best bet is to move on. If you don't, you'll just get your feelings hurt. Guaranteed. No guy ever wants to meet with an attractive girl to ever be friends.

    Next time, get to know a girl really really well before asking her out. AFCs like me in the past, always asked girls out right away-which led to rejection.

    Get to know the girl as much as you can first, maybe like several weeks or over the course of several interactions, where you happen to bump into her by chance; that way she'll be comfortable meeting with you.
    Last edited by wikiwally; 10-23-2015 at 06:28 PM. Reason: Too long


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