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    Default Talking to Women at College

    Today at college, I was sitting down next to a cute girl who I wanted to talk to not because I wanted to get a girlfriend, but because I just wanted to practice talking to women. I sat there thinking about it and what to say to her and could only come up with "What are you studying?" which, to me, seems pretty lame even though it would lead to more conversation. I thought I had to come up with something funny or witty or at least more interesting than that. So, I didn't say anything to her. I ended up making the excuse for my decision that my social skills just aren't good enough yet to start talking to random women. The same thing that happened with this girl happened with another girl in my class who seemed to be showing me signs that she wanted me to talk to her. She was giving off that vibe.

    I am trying to improve my social skills by, for example, going to a couple college clubs today. See, I come off to many people I encounter as uptight, shy, and, sometimes, awkward. This is why I sort of have decided I won't try to talk to random women yet until I've improved my social skills more. Do you think this is a good decision? See, I don't want to waste my college experience like I did all throughout high school and before that. My school experience before college should've been when I practiced my skills with women like most men do, but I didn't at all. So, I want to practice talking to women, but not until I feel more socially adept enough by first practicing in more comfortable situations. I think, however, I might just be psyching myself out and maybe just don't believe in myself enough.

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    Default Re: Talking to Women at College

    Quote Originally Posted by Somebody View Post
    This is why I sort of have decided I won't try to talk to random women yet until I've improved my social skills more. Do you think this is a good decision?
    You develop your social skills with women by..... well talking to more women.

    Quote Originally Posted by Somebody View Post
    So, I want to practice talking to women, but not until I feel more socially adept enough by first practicing in more comfortable situations. I think, however, I might just be psyching myself out and maybe just don't believe in myself enough.
    If you seriously say a single word to women, start by talking to random Men (in a non-Gayish way ofcourse). And when you start get the flow of conversations, start approaching women.

    This however, is only a starter. Your issue is much more deep than just Approach Anxiety. Read my post on your other thread.

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    Default Re: Talking to Women at College

    "What are you studying?" Is a perfect question to ask a woman at school who is studying something. It just leads into more conversation. When she tells you about the subject then you can start a conversation about it. I've said "what are you studying" to many women and it works fine. Don't over think things!

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    Default Re: Talking to Women at College

    If you have trouble talking to women (or people in general), I suggest going to a local mall as a training ground. Go into a store and ask one of the associates for help with something, and try to keep more of a conversation going as they help you. When that becomes easy, try talking to random people that you see - talk about the weather, compliment them on what they're wearing, comment on something going on in the environment, or ask for their opinion on something, etc. You'll find that when you are at ease while making small talk with strangers, it's a lot easier to open and keep conversations going with people whom you have more common interests with - your classmates.

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    Default Re: Talking to Women at College

    Join an acting impro class. You are forced to learn how to talk/project your voice/and express your emotions and some cute girls learn there.
    With people in general Try to smile more. IT will feel very fucked up for you but just put it on your face.
    Also REMEMBER THIS RULE:

    "IT IS NOT WHAT YOU SAY NOR HOW YOU SAY BUT WHOOOO IS SAYING IT!"


    Start understanding you are OK and it is ok to be awkward. You will stop being that the more you talk. It is not the end of the world.

    I knew a player and he had the funniest and most nervous ticks and stutter I have ever seen. He didn't give a fuck about them and thought they make him look ALIVE. Guess what beautiful women had no problem with that man he was landing pussy left and right.

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    Default Re: Talking to Women at College

    Yeah man, I know this is an old thread, but I've been digging deep in the depths of forums so I'll give you my perspective. You definitely overthink things, way, way, way, way too much. Talk to guys, to the cashier, ask for directions, hold eye contact with a person, smile and say hi as he walks by you, ask for a pen. Do whatever you can, use ALL given situations to talk to people to break and throw away the chains that keep you in the comfort zone. Embrace your awkwardness, I have a friend (he's not into PUA) who stutters, likes stuff that some people might find odd yet he doesn't care, he did before, I haven't interacted with him for a while, now I see him again and he's like the same person.. but better. Confident, goes on dates, makes jokes that makes people feel uncomfortable says "eh, I'm weird, I don't care", embrace your awkwardness!


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