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    Default What do you think of the whole "yes, dear" thing?

    It seems to me that many, if not most men, are to one degree or another confused by women. Either they don't get it or give the women too much power. Even someone such as Dr. Phil, in my opinion has said things that suggest he doesn't quite get it. For example I heard him say something about using the "yes dear" thing to avoid conflicts with women. However, is avoiding a conflict really a good thing. Too many guys will humor women and fall prey to women's sneaky little traps(for lack of a better term). They will say things like "no, your butt doesn't look fat" and otherwise agree with everything they say in order to avoid a conflict. However, is this a good thing? As men should we always respond to a woman's questioning with "yes, dear" in order to avoid an argument or keep her happy? That may or may not work anyway and instead of keeping the peace it may make her think you have no back bone. So, anyway, what do you guys think of the whole "yes, dear" thing? Am I overthinking it or is it sometimes good to say Yes, dear in order to avoid some perceived conflict. "Whatever, you say" to me sounds less compliant and might be a better alternative but even that seems like you are backing down somewhat.

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    Default Re: What do you think of the whole "yes, dear" thing?

    I don't necesaarily agree with saying "Yes dear" thing. Makes you sound more like a pussy. However I do think turning her remarks/arguement into a funny comment is a good idea. Reason is women are stimulated by emotions, a little humor can totally avoid the arguement without unnecesaary acceptance or denial.

    If a woman however, persists after that then you should be honest about what you think because avoiding too much can make a woman feel like you are ignoring her and don't care about her. That's just my take on this.

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    Default Re: What do you think of the whole "yes, dear" thing?

    Ok, so how do you turn it into a humorous thing? Also, what do you mean by being honest? Do you think it's ok to tell her that her butt looks fat? Maybe something like "well, I wouldn't say fat but if you did more pilates you could tone it down a bit if that's what you want."

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    Default Re: What do you think of the whole "yes, dear" thing?

    Quote Originally Posted by Mystik View Post
    Ok, so how do you turn it into a humorous thing? Also, what do you mean by being honest? Do you think it's ok to tell her that her butt looks fat? Maybe something like "well, I wouldn't say fat but if you did more pilates you could tone it down a bit if that's what you want."
    Don't ever tell a woman her butt looks fat! You don't ever want her to feel bad about herself. If she's getting a little chunky don't tell her to work out. When she does work out tell her "Damn you look amazing in your work out pants!" or "You're really sexy when you work out!" These comments will make her want to work out even more.

    Here's an example of positive reinforcement. I would cook for my last girlfriend ALL the time. I started asking her to cook for me. The first time she cooked me a meal I said "Damn you're sexy when you cook...You're REALLY turning me on". I kept telling her stuff like this every time she cooked for me. Before I knew it every time she came over she would cook me breakfast and dinner. She would even bring the groceries!

    I don't think you should say "yes dear" to everything. When I say no to a girlfriend it's because I think she's being ridiculous or I don't want to do it. If she gets mad at me I just laugh at her (because I think it's funny that she's mad over something so trivial). I also tell her things like "go ahead and be mad, I'm having a great time" then I proceed to have a good time. I don't let her moods effect mine.

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    Default Re: What do you think of the whole "yes, dear" thing?

    Corey Wayne in his book "How to be a 3% Man" has discussed this particular issue in detail. If you want to know further you might want to read this book. Its a FREE ebook so you can just download and skim through it. (Could've posted the link but I guess its against the forum rules)

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    Default Re: What do you think of the whole "yes, dear" thing?

    I say "YES BYAATCH" when she fucks with me No serious. I don't have time for Shaping someone's behavior. A tactic those pua nerds stole from the bitch pimps.

    See I have a very simple rule for girls:

    If she doesn't take care of her self I will tell her she is getting fucking ugly and doesn't turn me on at all so she has one month. She get with program or her ass is out. They usually cry and bitch.
    And the next day I find her ass doing squats and doing sports.

    When I see her doing that I may tell her good job and give her a kiss.
    When I see that she got in better shape I'd give her a sex full of orgasms as a reward.

    ABt the yes dear shit. HAHAHA .My girls never even try to fuck with me. I don't humour a girl. I give her a look like she is fucking retarded and ignore her. If she repeats it I scream at her and say "bitch know your place" then completely ignore her. Why the fuck should I give her the gift of laughter when she is misbehaving.

    Now I do Rewards her with the same amount of love and passion as when I punish her. THis means that when she does good I make her feel as the most beautiful girl on this planet. I listen to her dreams and bring her fantasies to life.

    Its simple! You will get heaven if you are good.
    You will get hell if you are bad.
    If you persists you are out of my life.

    Pimpin'Scout

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    Default Re: What do you think of the whole "yes, dear" thing?

    I was able to get to where the free ebook was but I wasn't able to download to my computer(I'd have to pay to do that).

    Anyway, I really don't think it's necessary to be a smart ass or abusive or mean spirited or whatever. I think you can just stand your ground without making her feel like she is a worthless piece of crap. Women who put up with that aren't the kind of women you want anyway and no man should ever put a woman down like that.

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    Default Re: What do you think of the whole "yes, dear" thing?

    Are you seriously giving ME advice ?

    How the fuck can you know what woman I want?

    Have you dated a Maxim model or any kind of girl who is valued by the world for her beauty?

    I talk from reality. It is very abusive to my eyes when a girl doesn't take care of herself and disrespect me.

    Guess what...Most of my relationships the girls are sweet as butter and loving. Because she knows I AM THE BOSS.

    While you guys have to figure out if a girl is testing you she is worried If I am testing her.

    I rarely if ever get bad behavior from a girl.

    The girl knows clearly the rules and loves me for that.

    WOMEN LOVE PASSION!

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    Default Re: What do you think of the whole "yes, dear" thing?

    Quote Originally Posted by Pimpin'Scout View Post
    Are you seriously giving ME advice ?

    How the fuck can you know what woman I want?

    Have you dated a Maxim model or any kind of girl who is valued by the world for her beauty?

    I talk from reality. It is very abusive to my eyes when a girl doesn't take care of herself and disrespect me.

    Guess what...Most of my relationships the girls are sweet as butter and loving. Because she knows I AM THE BOSS.

    While you guys have to figure out if a girl is testing you she is worried If I am testing her.

    I rarely if ever get bad behavior from a girl.

    The girl knows clearly the rules and loves me for that.

    WOMEN LOVE PASSION!

    Pimpin'Scout

    Wow, relax there Tiger.

    Damn right I'm giving you advice. From your previous post you seem to be ok with talking down to a woman and treating her like crap. I don't think that is ok under any circumstance. Why would any pua aspiring or otherwise be attracted to such damaged goods? Also, how can any real pua think it's ok to be disrespectful to women? The answer is he is not a real pua but rather one of these abusive guys who doesn't have real game. Sorry if the truth hurts but there it is.

    If your reality is fighting with women and abusing them then maybe you need to change your reality.

    Nice use of the f word there. I didn't even know they allowed that on here. Maybe they changed the rules. Regardless, you obviously have anger issues and need to see a therapist. Good luck to you!

    Oh and if you get all angry and start cursing at me and saying I'm wrong and what a jerk I am then that only proves my point.

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    Default Re: What do you think of the whole "yes, dear" thing?

    What are your credentials in this game? Your words actually made me laugh and feel pitty for how little seduction and women understanding you have. Only when you are at my level would you understand what I said.

    Your reality is so weak and limited you are not able to see past your big nerdy glasses. You have to understand that by your words we both have clearly two different intentions. Yours is to prove your points which helps you feel popular and validated on a forum because clearly you are getting nothing and MINE is to teach real game ( quoting "Oh and if you get all angry and start cursing at me and saying I'm wrong and what a jerk I am then that only proves my point.")

    I also don't get angry but I admit sometimes frustrated at the new generation of seducers who really have such weak game and understanding yet giving advice like you for example. One day you may learn or may not. Who knows.

    I will try to further help you understand my post. If you saw my words as angry than you clearly didn't understand it.
    I STATED ABOVE (I write in caps so you focus and try to comprehend). I RARELY IF EVER have conflicts or fights with girls.

    An abusive relationship is when a man or woman are hurting each other and it is REPEATING and consistent.
    I don't have this problem. They usually take care of themselves cook and treat me with the most love and respect.

    I don't get angry at the woman. I am unattached. She isn't at my level to fuck with my emotions no women is(The word fuck also offended you. Hilarious) But she has a desire to feel my dominance and be put in her place or she WOULDN'T MISBEHAVE.
    See any woman in my life has the option to WALK AWAY if she doesn't feel me. But if she stays she has to follow my rules. Some rules are negotiable and some are red lines.

    If SHE CHOOSES to stay with me and follow my rules she will be treated as I stated above at a level of happiness she never experienced in her life.
    If SHE CHOOSES to stay but fuck with me and I let her or humour her or whatever bullcrap u said. Not only she but all the rest of my girls would lose respect for me and see that I don't have the balls to call bullshit when it happens. I am not a MAN.

    So I punish her. And I make it CLEAR where every cell in her body understand I am not someone to be played with. I don't pull back and be a SAVE A HO idiot.WHY?

    Because if she senses weakness and Etiquette as you punish her she will do it again and again. But if she sees HELL she will never do it again. This is why you hear about bitch ass men hitting women! He did the ignore humour and your way but the woman wouldnt stop . ANd then one day his bitch ass couldn't get her ass under his control so he slapped her. I am teaching you how to avoid this but you are too young and full of cum to understand the wisdom I am giving you.

    And guess what happens after I punish her SHE NEVER DOES IT AGAIN!
    Now lets say she repeats that behavior after I punish her. I dump her.

    Why?
    Because I don't want an abusive relationship where I need to force a woman or man need to force a woman to be a certain way.

    Goodluck,
    Pimpin'Scout


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