I had an eye opening situation this morning. I had my first Tinder sex. There was something that came totally unexpected for the physical escalation. This was the kissing. I didn't plan on it, but of course it happened and she seemed to like it more than anything else.

This got me to wondering about physical escalation at a bar. You can't fuck in a bar, but how soon should you kiss and what should precede it? Elbow touches?

I think knowing this will reduce my approach anxiety. Physical escalation is the whole point.