Okay, so I was reading this book by Corey Wayne , another dating coach, who said that you don't have to kino-escalate all the time, but instead let the girl do it and you simply reciprocate. He didn't say that there aren't certain instances where you should do it, like when you go for the kiss, but gave the woman a bigger role in the process. So, basically, you attract a women and flirt with her verbally and she'll start touching you then you can start reciprocating by touching her back at the same level. So, I guess what I'm asking is how much kinoing do you have to do and how much the woman? Obviously I think there's a balance where you can do too much kino too soon and where you can do not enough. How do you find this balance? Thanks