Okay, so this is going to be a pretty long post, yet I highly suggest you don't just take a glance, but read this all the way through
1. Practice makes perfect
I've noticed that a lot of guys who come here, they tend to think more than they act, searching for answers to questions they're not actually willing to answer. Just knowing something (reading it in a book or receiving advice from someone) isn't going to make you a better PUA, no. Knowing something can give you the required material, or urge you to develop a different mindset, but you are not going to get great results until you actualy USE the stuff you've "learned". To trully achieve the point where you can be called a natural, you have to practise as often as possible, to not let your gained knowledge go stale, if you do this often enough, you'll begin to get the hang of it more rapidly. I like to think of it this way - "a day spent not working towards my goals, is just me furthering my ideal future for one more day". Which leads me to the next subject
2. Develop the mindset "Fuck it"
This is very similar to "stepping out of your comfort zone" but saying those 2 magic words, before doing something I'm not completely comfortable with, has become a habit of mine. I know it sounds cheesy, but it clears my mind of all negative outcomes ,which is the cause of AA (overthinking negatively), to a point where my attention is fully focused only on the task at hand. Don't think about if the girl isn't going to be attracted to you, or if she has a boyfriend, or if she has her bitch-shield on, or that your game isn't good enough for her, just think "fuck it" and do it anyways, we're often stupid and we forget that the worst that can happen is her saying "no", it doesn't matter if you succeed or not, because it's a win-win situation, I'll explain why in the next chapter
3. Love your failures
You following through with your emotions and actually doing something you normally wouldn't do is a win-win. You succeed at the goal you've set for yourself, great, you're proud of yourself that your game is that good. Yet if you "fail", it shouldn't get you down, and should bring you positive emotions, because.. guess what? you've just stepped out of your comfort zone, tried something new, got a better understanding of what works and what doesn't, also the girl is going to respect you for your confidence even if she blows you off. (One of my friend was approaching a girl who was about 6years older than him, she shot him down, yet she actually said that his confidence admires her).
4. Focus on your weaknesses
I see this way too often, not only in Pick up, but in other aspects of life also, people tend to do something, they're extremely good at, but there's a major flaw that they just ignore and focus on the thing they're doing great. If you still don't know what I mean here's an example - a guy who feels no anxiety approaching very beautiful women, makes them attracted to him with ease and very quickly, yet it fades away fast because he lacks the ability to build genuine connection (comfort) and is only perceived as if he's conversing with girls for sex. Now, before I continue on the subject, I just want you to know that being the best at one thing, isn't going to make up for your awful performance at another, so focusing on your weaknesses is the key to success and makes it more fun on becoming a master at this. I am far from becoming one, but I'm genuinely enjoying every step I take, and putting more focus on my weaknesses was probably one of the best things so far, and you'll feel the same way if you do that aswell, the explanation for this is very simple - we all love winning, every obstacle we overcome is a little victory, and what do you think has more obstacles to overcome, the thing you're great at, or the thing you're terrible at?
5. Book game is stopping you from reaching your full potential
Before you start flaming me, I will admit that having training wheels (one-liners) at the beginning is definitely a crucial thing, because it gives you more confidence with women because if you don't know what to say or do, you have plan b,c,.....z stocked. It's definitely great, once you've just begun, but it's going to stop you in the long-run, relying on training wheels is never going to let you become a natural. The attraction that's been built isn't all for you, it's mostly for the material itself that you're using over and over and which is making them sound less genuine everytime they come out of your mouth. Yeah, I myself have 3-5 of them stocked in my head, they're funny and they're great for breaking the icemy favorite -
-are you good at taking compliments from strangers?
-yes *with a smirk on her face*
-great, so am I, you go first
although they're helpful, it's best to minimize the amount of them you use after some time, if you trully want your game to sky-rocket. You're not going to have a lot of social-intelligence if every thing you say that brings positive emotions in others is just stuff you read and memorized.
I hope this information was helpful,
with all due respect,
The Infamous Alergy