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    Lightbulb Practise, Failures (must read)

    Okay, so this is going to be a pretty long post, yet I highly suggest you don't just take a glance, but read this all the way through

    1. Practice makes perfect
    I've noticed that a lot of guys who come here, they tend to think more than they act, searching for answers to questions they're not actually willing to answer. Just knowing something (reading it in a book or receiving advice from someone) isn't going to make you a better PUA, no. Knowing something can give you the required material, or urge you to develop a different mindset, but you are not going to get great results until you actualy USE the stuff you've "learned". To trully achieve the point where you can be called a natural, you have to practise as often as possible, to not let your gained knowledge go stale, if you do this often enough, you'll begin to get the hang of it more rapidly. I like to think of it this way - "a day spent not working towards my goals, is just me furthering my ideal future for one more day". Which leads me to the next subject


    2. Develop the mindset "Fuck it"
    This is very similar to "stepping out of your comfort zone" but saying those 2 magic words, before doing something I'm not completely comfortable with, has become a habit of mine. I know it sounds cheesy, but it clears my mind of all negative outcomes ,which is the cause of AA (overthinking negatively), to a point where my attention is fully focused only on the task at hand. Don't think about if the girl isn't going to be attracted to you, or if she has a boyfriend, or if she has her bitch-shield on, or that your game isn't good enough for her, just think "fuck it" and do it anyways, we're often stupid and we forget that the worst that can happen is her saying "no", it doesn't matter if you succeed or not, because it's a win-win situation, I'll explain why in the next chapter


    3. Love your failures
    You following through with your emotions and actually doing something you normally wouldn't do is a win-win. You succeed at the goal you've set for yourself, great, you're proud of yourself that your game is that good. Yet if you "fail", it shouldn't get you down, and should bring you positive emotions, because.. guess what? you've just stepped out of your comfort zone, tried something new, got a better understanding of what works and what doesn't, also the girl is going to respect you for your confidence even if she blows you off. (One of my friend was approaching a girl who was about 6years older than him, she shot him down, yet she actually said that his confidence admires her).


    4. Focus on your weaknesses
    I see this way too often, not only in Pick up, but in other aspects of life also, people tend to do something, they're extremely good at, but there's a major flaw that they just ignore and focus on the thing they're doing great. If you still don't know what I mean here's an example - a guy who feels no anxiety approaching very beautiful women, makes them attracted to him with ease and very quickly, yet it fades away fast because he lacks the ability to build genuine connection (comfort) and is only perceived as if he's conversing with girls for sex. Now, before I continue on the subject, I just want you to know that being the best at one thing, isn't going to make up for your awful performance at another, so focusing on your weaknesses is the key to success and makes it more fun on becoming a master at this. I am far from becoming one, but I'm genuinely enjoying every step I take, and putting more focus on my weaknesses was probably one of the best things so far, and you'll feel the same way if you do that aswell, the explanation for this is very simple - we all love winning, every obstacle we overcome is a little victory, and what do you think has more obstacles to overcome, the thing you're great at, or the thing you're terrible at?


    5. Book game is stopping you from reaching your full potential
    Before you start flaming me, I will admit that having training wheels (one-liners) at the beginning is definitely a crucial thing, because it gives you more confidence with women because if you don't know what to say or do, you have plan b,c,.....z stocked. It's definitely great, once you've just begun, but it's going to stop you in the long-run, relying on training wheels is never going to let you become a natural. The attraction that's been built isn't all for you, it's mostly for the material itself that you're using over and over and which is making them sound less genuine everytime they come out of your mouth. Yeah, I myself have 3-5 of them stocked in my head, they're funny and they're great for breaking the icemy favorite -
    -are you good at taking compliments from strangers?
    -yes *with a smirk on her face*
    -great, so am I, you go first
    although they're helpful, it's best to minimize the amount of them you use after some time, if you trully want your game to sky-rocket. You're not going to have a lot of social-intelligence if every thing you say that brings positive emotions in others is just stuff you read and memorized.

    I hope this information was helpful,

    with all due respect,

    The Infamous Alergy

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    Default Re: Practise, Failures (must read)

    What are your credentials?

    What do you actually do on a daily basis?

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    Default Re: Practise, Failures (must read)

    Just stop, you're a complete narcissistic asshole who has nothing to offer women but money, you've been given loads of advice by multiple members of this forums and gave nothing but negativity in return, actually tried to help you, but you need the help of a doctor because I wasn't joking with my theory about you being a psychopath, this is the last time I spend my time on a guy like you, have a good day and don't bother getting my attention again.

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    Default Re: Practise, Failures (must read)

    Good thread Alergy. Keep up the good work

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    Default Re: Practise, Failures (must read)

    Why don't you answer the question?

    What else is there to offer them?

    I don't give any money to them.

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    Default Re: Practise, Failures (must read)

    Quote Originally Posted by redstar1324 View Post
    Why don't you answer the question?
    Unfortunately we don't have the CREDENTIALS to answer your question.

    Really Nice post Alergy. A lot of people seem to get stuck in "Analysis Paralysis" (term coined by Mark Manson). They'll read 20 gbs of PUA material and will not be ready to take action even then. There's always one more question to answer. One more thing to read before one is ready.

    I have to admit that as an introvert, I also tend to get into that laziness but then again, posts like these keep me motivated and remind me to take action.

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    Default Re: Practise, Failures (must read)

    Thanks, I had the same problem and noticed that many guys struggle with some of this stuff as well, that's why I wanted to share my thoughts from personal experience about this

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    Default Re: Practise, Failures (must read)

    Well before you go around giving advice, it would be nice to hear what you have accomplished...

    On another forum, there was a guy offering advice for money and after a few phone calls, it turns out he's a kid in a college dorm room

    So do you have ten supermodels in your bed?

    Do you struggle to get girls at bars?

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    Default Re: Practise, Failures (must read)

    I admit that my game sucks at the moment. I fucked up and got into a relationship. At ground zero at the moment. Although, there was a time when I gamed consistently for a period of three months. The results were fantastic as I was no longer in my head. My best pick up then was a girl who had entered the night club with her bf in tow. She was drop dead gorgeous and every heterosexual male in the club had his eyes on her.

    Back then I said, fuck it, it is now or never. Threw the rules out of the window. Bf hits the loo and I hit her. We exchange numbers, hit the dance floor and she grinds her ass against my crotch. The poor schmuck just sits there jaw agape and wondering as to what happened.

    I went direct on her, sexual intention conveyed and she was hooked. Sometimes, we need to stop constructing things with logic as women are not driven by the tenets of reason but rather emotion. As hard as that may be for that to sink in. At their very core, women are sexual beings, far more than men and are hypergamous.

    I'd concur that I fucked up, getting into a relationship with what was evidently a playette. It taught me to never trust anyone and only serve my interests. For only fools fool with love.


    Quote Originally Posted by Sam981 View Post
    Unfortunately we don't have the CREDENTIALS to answer your question.

    Really Nice post Alergy. A lot of people seem to get stuck in "Analysis Paralysis" (term coined by Mark Manson). They'll read 20 gbs of PUA material and will not be ready to take action even then. There's always one more question to answer. One more thing to read before one is ready.

    I have to admit that as an introvert, I also tend to get into that laziness but then again, posts like these keep me motivated and remind me to take action.

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    Default Re: Practise, Failures (must read)

    Did you fuck that girl from the nightclub?

    What happened in the "playette" relationship?


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