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    Question no motivation to pick up?

    First of all - I'll start out by stating that no, I'm not sad nor depressed. I've noticed that I wanted to go out and game a lot a few months ago, when I actually started out to clubs and bars I grew tired of them pretty quickly, yes I have a good time with my friends there but the last 2 times I went out I didn't even approach anyone. It's not AA, I have no problem approaching girls at night (haven't approached any girl in daytime with a sole purpose of picking them up so far). I'm definitely not going to stop my journey towards becoming a MPUA, but at this moment I'm at a point where I'm a bit lost and unaware of what I should do to get my motivation to sarge sarge and sarge.

    If you guys have any advice or theories, thanks in advance,

    with all due respect,

    -Alergy

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    Default Re: no motivation to pick up?

    Find some activity other than sarging that you are really passionate about and enjoy doing it. It really helps.

    And of course push yourself to sarge and sarge. A good way to do this is to "Set a goal" for every day just like Bruce Wayne is doing. This way you'll have a constraint in mind. You'll have to get out of your comfort zone for this one, so when you feel like 'not doing it', instead of stopping, push yourself to actually do it. Doesn't matter if you succeed or not. Just "Start" doing it and when you take the first step, you'll start to enjoy the process.
    Hope that helps.

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    Default Re: no motivation to pick up?

    Yeah I love reading, working out and practicing writing (I have an idea for a book). This stuff isn't really PUA related, yet like PU, it revolves around self-improvement, so doing this stuff puts me in a great mood due to the fact that I take great pleasure working towards becoming the best that I can be (Strongest version of myself). I thought about just "doing it" and pushing through it, but I'm not really going out that much at day time so I don't get to meet girls that I find attractive enough for me to strike up a conversation with them. Setting a goal for myself is a pretty good idea though, let's say I'm not doing anything and just going to get groceries or whatever and I set a goal - to strike a conversation with a girl even if she's not that attractive, ask for something or give a compliment. I'm definitely going to try this whole "goal" thing out, thanks

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    Default Re: no motivation to pick up?

    Quote Originally Posted by Alergy View Post
    Yeah I love reading, working out and practicing writing (I have an idea for a book). This stuff isn't really PUA related, yet like PU, it revolves around self-improvement, so doing this stuff puts me in a great mood due to the fact that I take great pleasure working towards becoming the best that I can be (Strongest version of myself). I thought about just "doing it" and pushing through it, but I'm not really going out that much at day time so I don't get to meet girls that I find attractive enough for me to strike up a conversation with them. Setting a goal for myself is a pretty good idea though, let's say I'm not doing anything and just going to get groceries or whatever and I set a goal - to strike a conversation with a girl even if she's not that attractive, ask for something or give a compliment. I'm definitely going to try this whole "goal" thing out, thanks
    While some people also suggest to make a bet with your friend. Like give him 100$ and tell him that if I don't approach 10 girls today, don't give me back. And then be honest whether you achieve it or not.

    Personally I don't recommend this because its way better if you take control of your emotions yourself. That's what the whole objective of PU is: "To be in control of yourself". And if you can't convince yourself on this one how can you expect to be in control of greater challenges that are to come ahead?

    While reading and writing are great exercises (I also do reading a lot), I've found from experience that Outdoor Activities tend to have greater effect in terms of setting your mood, whether it be taking a walk, taking a ride, or just going out and meeting strangers (male, older people, girls if possible). So I'd suggest take an outdoor activity also.

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    Default Re: no motivation to pick up?

    Maybe it's time to get a girlfriend Alergy... lmao

    You do know sex gets a million times better with the same person right? As long as you are both kinky ;D
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    Default Re: no motivation to pick up?

    Sure I could, there are girls that I find attractive, they catch my eye, not my heart, I don't feel an emptiness feeling inside me that only a woman could fill, and I'm not going to force myself into a relationship, that's just wrong.. I'd end up feeling sorry for the girl because she's just not for me and leave her.

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    Default Re: no motivation to pick up?

    Great. That's wise and respectful.
    You will never do ANYTHING in this world without COURAGE. - Aristotle


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