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    Default Did I escalate too quickly or am I just harshly overthinking it?

    Hey fellas,

    Havent been on here in a while, nice to be back. I don't want to throw a whole story book out, so I'm going to try to keep this as short as possible. A few months back I met a girl who worked near me, I had a girlfriend I was going through a breakup with at the time, but was attracted to this girl. We started talking and becoming friends. I would flirt here and there, and so would she. Shed send the occasional goodnight and what not, but from what I can tell shes not the type to just jump in or put out right away. so we had hung out as friends while I was going through this breakup and than continued to after, but her and I both knew there was some kind of attraction there, I just let it play out and was extremely patient, we took time to get to know each other and hang out flirting before I made moves (p.s. Id mostly visit her at work). So now weve been friends for about 6 weeks, she knows I'm totally separated from the other girl, and 4 or 5 nights ago we went out together downtown. We wound up seeing a few friends out and she got a pretty drunk. I wound up taking care of her and we slept at my place. We made out for a little bit, and I slowly put a hand down south, she blocked it and I casually joked about it, and than told her I was glad she didn't let me, that I respected her. We went on making out and than the next morning she went home. She continued to text me that day and the next few days. Than we hung out again the other night, one of her friends had been with her and had a little too much to drink (p.s. this girl is a bartender at an upscale restaurant.) So like a gentleman I offered her and her friend to hang out at my house until her friend was sober. Long story short her friend wound up passing out in her bed and me and her wound up kissing. Things got heated pretty quickly and I made sure to take my time feeling all parts of her body, not to rush and to tease, than I put my hand south after a while. She let it happen for a little, but than stated a bit of reluctance because she had a beer or two after work and because her friend was next to us passed out. It wasn't like "I need to go" reluctance but more like "oh gosh, I'm bad" relucatance. I said that was ok I totally understood, she responded by saying that "I need to slow down a bit, not that you need to in the future, just right now a little bit" or something along those lines. I responded with a smile and just said that was ok and she knows I wouldn't push her to do anything she didn't want to, she smiled and said I know. I pulled put her pants up and went back to kissing. We continued to make out for a bit and a half an hour later I'm sensually touching and teasing her, than next thing I know I'm down her pants again, this time with no resistance from her, she gets really into it than next thing I know her hands are all the way down my pants and her pants are totally off, we didn't have sex but had just fooled around, but I don't feel like I forced it at. She didn't have any resistance and had even initiated going down my pants at one point, but had made little comments once or twice, one in particular I remember was that "this wasn't very lady like". Of course I just kept things light and fun and at one point she joked about me grabbing her ass and why I thought I was allowed to (in a totally joking manner, she said it while kissing me and grabbing at my pants). We woke up the next morning and her friend went to get their car, I kissed her before she left and it seemed fine. She didn't text me at all that day or today, which I understand isn't a really long time, but she had been texting me most every day before.
    So I'm wondering, after taking things so slow and patient in the beginning does it seem like I moved to fast or am I totally overthinking it?
    Did I freak this girl out? Push her too far sexually? Make her feel slutty? or some other thing?
    Or did I play things right and now just have to continue to be patient.
    Like I said it was just a little weird that she didn't text me yesterday after but I kissed her before she left and all seemed fine, but you never know what gets into girls heads when they walk away.
    If I did move to quick is there any thing to fix it?
    And if I didn't move to fast, how long should I wait before I initiate texting again with her.
    P.S. this girl works a few blocks away so its not abnormal for me to just casually visit for food or to watch a basketball game etc.
    Thanks for your time guys!

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    Default Re: Did I escalate too quickly or am I just harshly overthinking it?

    You're overthinking it!

    Just keep doing what you're doin and progress a little more each time.

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    Jts3443 is offline PUA in Training
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    Default Re: Did I escalate too quickly or am I just harshly overthinking it?

    Quote Originally Posted by Slickwilly View Post
    You're overthinking it!

    Just keep doing what you're doin and progress a little more each time.
    Thanks, Slickwilly. Its just so odd that she hasn't texted me since than, idk if shes waiting for me to text her. I just have this bad gut feeling, but maybe shes just scared and thinking the same thing. I don't really know, I guess Ill wait to see if she contacts me and if not ill have to go see her.


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