Re: What is wrong with my thought process of trying to impress?
Let me give some free advice!
The things you are doing and you are say are good your mental state is not good. It is not the things that make the man it is the man that makes the things.
Money always helps no doubt
But I am a poor dude and though I have the limited belief that "Money is what chicks want" I find too many reasons to know that's not the entire truth.
I get by with practically nothing to my name and I manage just fine with extremely high class girls.
It is how you spin it. If you are spinning as the car or job is going to get you the chick then you will attract the gold diggers so you should go out hunting for gold diggers and flaunting your stuff....RIIGHT
Rule of thumb!
Don't be a douchebag
I steal VIP chicks who are spoiled by $700 bottle service by rich guys in the Club by my openers, words, and actions. No money involved.
Sometimes money is a helper and sometimes a hindered aspect.
Never try to impress them that's a shallow goal and hard to gauge the outcome.
ALWAYS try to impress yourself this is a greater challenge and a stronger focus with better calibration therefore better results.
Every time I have failed I have failed hard in impressing myself. I could have done this, I could have done that kinda deal. But I never failed when I was amusing myself. I always find the PUA antics to be true through regular field testing, some of it is bunk though.
For instance I live with my Mom, am always broke, BUT my Inner Game has gotten SO SO good when I go out I APPROACH THE HOTTEST girl (s) in the Club or Bar and score numbers, makeouts, etc. Because see the law of attraction it is more important how you are dressed even more important how you approach but the most important is what you say or do.
So I can get away with being an A-hole, a goofball, a niceguy, a badboy as long as one thing remains...I AM TRUE TO MYSELF.
A woman's calibration is different than a man's. A man's is calibration of the self-awareness of doing things good or bad. A woman's is not in tune with herself it is more in tune with the exterior...the actions of the Male. When we study this it proves true almost down to a science (biology and anatomy) that women respond differently according to how they are approached, how they are talked to, or how they are treated. It almost has nothing to do with how they feel (starting out). But a man's interaction is all based on how he feels since that will determine him approaching a hottie from a nottie.
So in essence when you approach a woman correctly and you are feeling it (in the zone, a badass, true to yourself) then they always reward you. But you suffer every time you fvck up.
So really the best way to impress them is to not be a try hard (hey I got money, cars, etc) but to be cool as sh!t. I am cool as sh!t so chicks don't give a fvck what I have because it is more sexual at that point (sex has nothing to do with money unless you are paying for sex). They might like simple things like buying them a drink but I don't mind them milking me a little for their company because it is worth the effort.
Anyway you can't be cool as sh!t bragging about what you have. It is better not to brag at all (unless for humor purposes or on purpose to self-depreciate) it is always best to be present in the moment and be keen on the interaction. Now when you get to the bare bones of it and say well I want to impress this chick I really like whom I happen to have noticed at the Bar here is what you would normally do. Remember women are more impressed when they find out you have money by surprise (like you can take them out wherever, do expensive things together without hassle) rather than you trying to buy her love. That never works unless she is a gold digger like I said. So wait to reveal what you have better yet let her find out by hanging out with you. She will appreciate it for sure as long as you are not making it seem like it is a means of impressing a chick. I have learned a long hard lesson that impressing a chick is a simple matter of impressing yourself and letting her accept you for who you are.
At a Bar
Create Attraction through fluff (best with a good opener)
Run kino when appropriate
Grab number, bounce, or k-close.
It is as simple as that and converting your numbers to something. That is the best success I've had.
Here is how a standard quality approach for me happens at a bar or club
"You here with anyone?"
"You look bored"
"How drunk are YOU"
"Let's go upstairs" (takes calibration and my next opener I am itching to try out)
"I've been waiting to talk to you"
"I ran all the way over here"
"I saw you checking me out so I thought I would do you a favor"
Those openers usually get them guessing and develops long ass convos. Sometimes I cut it out at 5 minutes and tail and run sometimes I stick around for an hour or two. Lately I have been sticking it out longer for the purposes of SNL but I am great at the cut and dry approach and usually can bang out a 9 or 10's number in about 5 minutes flat with a good opener.
I never talk about what I have but I have been working on including what I do on a daily basis or talking about things I like. Somehow with the few minor things I do and the simple things hot girls give me soooo much validation I need not try to impress them with my looks or money. They are more impressed by a natural than a guy trying to look cool.
When you let go of your feelings you can really then embrace your surroundings
Love is a game that's why I don't worry about it anymore. When you let go of your feelings you find your meaning.