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    Default bf destroyer at work

    Long post but it's worth it. I took the advice from one of xavier posts, thanks a lot!

    So I knew this girl for a while now (we were not even friends, just acquaintances) I saw her at a club the other day and decided to get her number and ask her out.

    Went on a first date, K-close with a little of resistance.

    Second date, we were about to go back at my place, was about to k when she goes:

    Look. I dated this guy for like a loong time... For the last 3 years, things had been going bad (they had been dating on and off). I decided we should take some time apart to think because it wasn't working anymore. This was a few months back. I am forced to see the guy regularly because we work together. Almost every other time we meet he begs to have a talk and get back. Eventually I am going to need to have the talk with him and tell him look I know we decided to take time apart and I decided that we should break it forever.
    I don't want you to be hostage of this situation that I myself need to solve and I understand if you'd rather walk away. I know I should be able to solve everything but for now its been hard, and I don't want to put pressure on myself because it makes me fee bad. The decision is yours.

    I replied with: I can understand how hard it could be to be on a situation like yours... assuming by the fact that we are going out and he has been insisting with getting back together every time you guys meet and you having to avoid the subject. I understand. but you also have to understand that it is not you ex's fault. You have been together for so long that you are the only and entire world to him... without you nothing else matters. When you are with someone for so long, when you are without the other person you feel like you are nothing. You can't blame him, you are so very special to him. You are an independent woman and you have already made your choice but resolve will come in due time.

    she said: I just don't want you to get hurt because I really can't give you my 100% until I work things out. For now.

    I cam back with: Well it is evident that he needs you very much. Don't worry about it, you don't have any moral obligation with me. We are taking things slow, going step by step. We both know what we are doing.

    her: Ok I agree . I just didn't want to leave you with any doubts.

    long story short, within 30 minutes we were having sex.

    So I think the destroyer was right on point...

    Now what do you guys think my approach should be next? How do I move forward?

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    Default Re: bf destroyer at work

    Quote Originally Posted by nickfury View Post
    Long post but it's worth it. I took the advice from one of xavier posts, thanks a lot!

    So I knew this girl for a while now (we were not even friends, just acquaintances) I saw her at a club the other day and decided to get her number and ask her out.

    Went on a first date, K-close with a little of resistance.

    Second date, we were about to go back at my place, was about to k when she goes:

    Look. I dated this guy for like a loong time... For the last 3 years, things had been going bad (they had been dating on and off). I decided we should take some time apart to think because it wasn't working anymore. This was a few months back. I am forced to see the guy regularly because we work together. Almost every other time we meet he begs to have a talk and get back. Eventually I am going to need to have the talk with him and tell him look I know we decided to take time apart and I decided that we should break it forever.
    I don't want you to be hostage of this situation that I myself need to solve and I understand if you'd rather walk away. I know I should be able to solve everything but for now its been hard, and I don't want to put pressure on myself because it makes me fee bad. The decision is yours.

    I replied with: I can understand how hard it could be to be on a situation like yours... assuming by the fact that we are going out and he has been insisting with getting back together every time you guys meet and you having to avoid the subject. I understand. but you also have to understand that it is not you ex's fault. You have been together for so long that you are the only and entire world to him... without you nothing else matters. When you are with someone for so long, when you are without the other person you feel like you are nothing. You can't blame him, you are so very special to him. You are an independent woman and you have already made your choice but resolve will come in due time.

    she said: I just don't want you to get hurt because I really can't give you my 100% until I work things out. For now.

    I cam back with: Well it is evident that he needs you very much. Don't worry about it, you don't have any moral obligation with me. We are taking things slow, going step by step. We both know what we are doing.

    her: Ok I agree . I just didn't want to leave you with any doubts.

    long story short, within 30 minutes we were having sex.

    So I think the destroyer was right on point...

    Now what do you guys think my approach should be next? How do I move forward?
    I couldn't have said anything better myself. You're next move is being a man and owning up to what you said and keeping it casual until she decides to give you her 100 %. Persue other girls in the mean time, it'll get your mind of it. If she brings up her bf again lay another one on her.

    I figured you wanted me to answer
    "The world will never change much less become what you want it to be. The only thing that can change is you. Face your fears, grow stronger and become what you want to be."
    _Xavier.

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    Default Re: bf destroyer at work

    ha most deffinitely! thanks a lot man great advice!

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    Default Re: bf destroyer at work

    Xavier never Fails.

    Ahhhh YEaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa aahhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!! !!!
    Men, we need to value our time more then we value women. This isn't to say women are not valuable. But who are we to believe in something so illogical, as men we should realize that without our time(life), we would not even be able to pursue women, but only our mother who gave us life. Why do we think we should prioritize them over our time(life) unless she is the one who gives me/my children life. Man is Sovereignty.

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    Default Re: bf destroyer at work

    Good stuff! Loving this forum.


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