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    Default What to talk about and what not to talk about

    So what are some good examples of things to talk about with a woman and what to not talk about? Also, how much of the conversation should be focused on her and how much on myself? If she talks about herself should I let her go on and on and how much should I focus on myself or try to steer it towards her?

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    Default Re: What to talk about and what not to talk about

    No you should only talk about yourself at first, fit one or two DHV stories into your normal small talk, then you should try to steer it towards her whenever a girl starts to talk about herself that means you got her. I always transition with:

    xavier:"I'm not going to stand here and talk about myself. I challenge you to talk about something interesting"
    Her: Something
    xavier: I don't want to talk about that, cmon intrest me, I know you can win this challenge, intrest me

    and then I accept her second topic and that's it, it works.

    It's hard to not talk about yourself sometimes I know, or to let someone else talk more when you care about the topic at hand, fight it ! and if you have to let it out for God's sake the passion and positiv energy you will bring will fuel the interaction and her emotions.

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    Default Re: What to talk about and what not to talk about

    Well there's a different approach you can try which is contrary to what Xavier is saying. Generally, women love talking about themselves, so if you find yourself stuck in a conversation you can shoot a question to her which involves her opinion on something. I don't really find talking about yourself with women is very attention grabbing unless you have already established solid rapport with her, other than that if you just met a girl you're looking to k-close or f-close I would generally stick to talking about anything that involves her, if you're really into the girl then listen to what she is saying and provide feedback, if not and you just want to close her screw whatever she's saying and just keep asking more questions. But don't get me wrong you don't want to look like you're too involved or interested in what she's saying, keep the questions slightly unimportant if you know what I mean. Like ask her opinion on a certain drink you're drinking or whatever, don't delve deep into life questions and stuff. But thats just me...

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    Default Re: What to talk about and what not to talk about

    One big thing is to straight up avoid complaining and negative behavior. If you are speaking with her and she brings up how much she hates the wait for coffee or what have you, smoothly transition into something else or completely ignore it. That goes for all people. Charismatic men do not entertain negativitiy.

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    Default Re: What to talk about and what not to talk about

    Things to AVOID (MUST):

    - Politics
    - Religion
    - Your Problems

    As for whether to talk about her or yourself, I'm gonna take a different take on this one than both the above two posters.

    Ask something about her amd whatever she tells relate your experience to it and thus, tell about yourself.

    For example, if you ask "Do you like xyz Restaurant"
    Her: whatever. Relate your experience "Yeah I've been there once and xyz item is really tasty..." There's no "PICK ONE" thing to it. It goes side by side you know, you ask her then tell about yourself, mixed with humour.

    That's my personal view on this btw, which I've found really helpful in real life, So follow it (or not) on your own judgement.

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    Default Re: What to talk about and what not to talk about

    I actually think it's probably best to get her to talk about herself as early as possible but just wanted to hear other opinions. The thing is the sooner she talks about herself and the more she talks about herself the more she is invested in the conversation and ultimately you.

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    Default Re: What to talk about and what not to talk about

    Quote Originally Posted by jimbonn View Post
    Well there's a different approach you can try which is contrary to what Xavier is saying. Generally, women love talking about themselves, so if you find yourself stuck in a conversation you can shoot a question to her which involves her opinion on something. I don't really find talking about yourself with women is very attention grabbing unless you have already established solid rapport with her, other than that if you just met a girl you're looking to k-close or f-close I would generally stick to talking about anything that involves her, if you're really into the girl then listen to what she is saying and provide feedback, if not and you just want to close her screw whatever she's saying and just keep asking more questions. But don't get me wrong you don't want to look like you're too involved or interested in what she's saying, keep the questions slightly unimportant if you know what I mean. Like ask her opinion on a certain drink you're drinking or whatever, don't delve deep into life questions and stuff. But thats just me...
    I said that women like to talk about themselves, but do you really think you won't wind up in the friendzone if you don't DHV at first , Plus what you're describing is an interview mode one which women hate. Plus plus, you can't ask someone you don't know all these personal questions some people, flat out dislike it because it makes them uncomfortable.
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    Default Re: What to talk about and what not to talk about

    Quote Originally Posted by Sam981 View Post
    Things to AVOID (MUST):

    - Politics
    - Religion
    - Your Problems

    As for whether to talk about her or yourself, I'm gonna take a different take on this one than both the above two posters.

    Ask something about her amd whatever she tells relate your experience to it and thus, tell about yourself.

    For example, if you ask "Do you like xyz Restaurant"
    Her: whatever. Relate your experience "Yeah I've been there once and xyz item is really tasty..." There's no "PICK ONE" thing to it. It goes side by side you know, you ask her then tell about yourself, mixed with humour.

    That's my personal view on this btw, which I've found really helpful in real life, So follow it (or not) on your own judgement.
    This is great for daygame and building rapport, but be careful not to make it too touchy feely in the beginning and not to give too much at the beginning. Mystery is key to attraction.
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    Default Re: What to talk about and what not to talk about

    Quote Originally Posted by xavier View Post
    I said that women like to talk about themselves, but do you really think you won't wind up in the friendzone if you don't DHV at first , Plus what you're describing is an interview mode one which women hate. Plus plus, you can't ask someone you don't know all these personal questions some people, flat out dislike it because it makes them uncomfortable.
    Yes, well that's what I said. "You don't want to look like you're too involved or interested in what she's saying, keep the questions slightly unimportant" and "don't delve deep into life questions and stuff" Regarding what you said about DHV, I personally like to do things more naturally, I don't like to follow a checklist per-say "Find a girl, check. Demonstrate higher value, check." I find that you automatically demonstrate higher value when you're talking to a girl through confident body language, are invested in what she is saying (but not too much), and can use your charm to seduce her so you don't end up in the friend-zone. In my opinion demonstrating higher value can appear cocky to some girls and thus lose interest in you, so I find it best to keep it subtle.

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    Default Re: What to talk about and what not to talk about

    With all this being said, if you can cold approach a girl and steer the conversation to an emotional character and openly build rapport quickly with the girl, you then are going to be unlocking the magic formula for eliminating flakes, friendzones, last minute resistance, and not texting back
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