To keep it as an easy read I will be brief. I've known HB8 for a month now, just had the 4th date with her. Just went to a fancy ball room type dinner to which she said she was very excited about, even buying a new dress and shoes and got all done up for it. During the entire night we were basically all over each other, lots of kissing, and a lot of kino. Hung out at an after party for a bit afterwards and then went back to her place. All of my friends thought I was going to get it in that night, considering the way we were around each other. When we got in bed to crash, i started kissing her again, watching her body language she liked it, yet still i faced lmr. Says we're not having sex, i say ok no problem...mind you i have faced lmr before from this girl so it's not the first time....i go on to kiss her again and she's liking it, still goes on to say we're not having sex. I ask why (considering i've known her for a month and this is date #4) she basically goes on to say that she "doesn't know me well enough", and that's fair fine and dandy with me...i'm a good guy and i can wait basically forever for sex and don't mind that at all......but.......t he issue is apparently she is a whore, and i've felt her pussy before, and it didn't feel like a tight pussy or the pussy of a girl that likes to get to know a guy before she fucks them to say the least. So i'm damned if i try to fuck her facing lmr, and i'm damned if i don't try to fuck her by looking like a beta afc, and possibly being friendzoned. We havent spoked or texted since, it's dead air between us a few days, i didn't want to initiate contact in fear of looking needy.
Not sure what her intentions are but if she's not fucking me by now i don't think they're good whatever they are. My theories are either she's just not that attracted to me(even though she gives ioi's and there is attraction between us), or she's trying to groom me in the long run to be her boyfriend and be able to use sex as power over me (unlikely i think though because i know she's not looking for a relationship, yet doesn't mean girls don't get boyfriends and cheat on them all the time anyway). Or possibly she thinks if i fuck her i'm going to be attached to her and she doesn't want a relationship and doesn't want that, i think that's possible because i'm not a player and haven't portrayed a player like vibe to her, i honestly think it's that, because what's the big deal about sex? Especially to an apparent whore.
Anyway, i like this girl, not that i'm going to smother her with neediness if i bang her, just want an open friends with benefits type of relationship like it's been, minus the sex which hasnt happened yet.... At this point do i forget about her? Or wait a week to 2 weeks to initiate conversation eventually see her again. I feel like i'll be giving off a needy afc vibe if i initiate at all...putting he ball in her court.
Simply put, sex should have happened by now...do i just forget about her or do continue going for it? Just don't wanna be her friend, that's for afcs and i don't want to be an afc.
I said i would be brief but i can't help writing a lot. Any thoughts on my situation would be appreciated.